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Jack is back
November 8, 2004
2:14 pm
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Quit beating yourself up again. It's not your fault he is the way he is and it's not your fault that you have a heart that feels.

I would not talk to him at all, Period. It only brings you more pain and you need to get away frokm the pain and start healing. We are all here for you sweetie.

~~fairy~~

November 8, 2004
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Thank you fairy, I have not returned his call nor do I want to. I found a really good song that I listen to that helps by Snow Patrol called Run. I hope that tonight is okay.

November 8, 2004
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He keeps calling, and I am trying to not give in. Part of me wants to know what does he want and the smarter better part says who cares what he wants. I havent answered or called him back.

November 8, 2004
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Don't if you don't want to. This whole thing is about what you want. He can't give it to you so you have to move on. Next time he calls answer the phone and say "STOP calling me" and hang up and turn the phone off or just don't answer it.

November 8, 2004
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Aces... hun, we KNOW what he wants. He wants to have sex, and treat you like crap and tell you what a slut you are and how horrible a person you are. Remember Thursday? Don't talk to him!

November 8, 2004
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I know I do remember thursday and the last thing I want is a repeat. I am so tired. So very tired emotionally and physically. I wish that I was one of those people that could just turn off their emotions.

November 8, 2004
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Hello Aces & Spades et al-
I am very proud of you not answering his calls. It is a control issue isn't it? When it seems like they are losing control, they pay more attention or even be nice, etc. until they can get control back. I had a cold-hearted boyfriend once. He was brutal. My ex was controlling and abusive - his issues were all about his own self-esteem - fear of losing, fear of being mmade a fool of, fear of crowds...I never had a life of my own. I hope you will stay strong. It's the mean ones that cause the most pain because they like to dole it out because it's their power. Have a good night.

November 8, 2004
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Well, you don't have to turn them off... just don't be around him so he can do more damage. Closure? Give me a break. I would think that him calling you all the names you've already heard is closure enough for him. What more could he have to say?

November 8, 2004
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Oh well Im sure he could say how Im shady because he was over sunday and couldnt find one of my "toys" and I must have left it at some guys house, or something that was just wrong, and I turned my ringer off sunday when he wsa there, I turned it off before he even showed up because I wanted to take a nap but that was shady too, so Im sure it would be that, or how he just doesnt want us to have a bad break up whatever, I think him telling me he could never care for me, and that he doesnt have the time to spend on me because I dont matter is enough closure for me.

November 8, 2004
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I agree. Don't torture yourself anymore. So you don't answer his calls, BIG DEAL. It is your choice to talk to whomever you want. If he don't like well tough shit. Don't answer the door unless you look out first and if he does show up and make a scene, call the police. Take precautions sweetie, because even though you may not think he will do something stupid you just never the mind of someone else. Please,please , please be careful, ok.

~~fairy~~

November 8, 2004
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I will I promise, but I really don't think he will, but I will be careful. I just really think he wants to be able to be done with a clean conscience. So he can think whatever he wants.

November 8, 2004
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I just talked to him he has been calling work so I finally took the call. He was asking how I cannot end things nicely and I always have to do this and the problem was that because I wanted him to stay after we would have sex, he automatically feels that he would have to move in. I dont know how he connected the two. And that he has a life, and is busy. And why can't I end things nicely why do I always have to be shitty about it. So I called him back left him a message and said okay we can end things nicely, I am not mad at you but at myself, and I dont need a dinner for closure or anything, and things are ended nicely. Now he can have his way and jerk off.

November 8, 2004
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Well you are exactly right. F*%k him and who cares about his clean consience. He should feel guilty so let him stew. He deserves to burn for a long time honey.

You just be safe ok. I will talk to you tomorrow.

HUGS!!

~~fairy~~

November 8, 2004
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Go Aces!
Good for you, didn't it feel good to tell him bye bye?? I've been stuck with jack all day today and all we did was bitch at each other. He's such a control freak, and he's driving me nuts! I see him trying to control his temper and stay nice towards me... its all bullshit so I'm not falling for it. You'll be okay, try to stop dwelling on why you weren't enough for him, it will just make you go crazy with hurt. I know for certain that he's text messaging other girls at work and trying to cuddle up with me and it hurts like hell but it helps me also to see how two-faced the bastard is. So I'm just trying to focus on myself right now. I catch myself wondering why and how he coulda done this or that but it isn't helping me. I admit I have just numbed myself out emotionally at work completely but its helping me get through the day. Hope your feeling better sweetie, things will get better, I mean how could we feel any worse right? lol....

November 9, 2004
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How are you doing, Aces...

And, about him saying he wants to end it nicely... who the hell cares what HE wants. You have a right to feel any way you want to. If you want to be pissed, he can't control that. He's trying to control even how you feel about things. He's going to keep calling... just don't pick up the phone.

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