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it was a 7 yr relationship!
February 2, 2005
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Hello everyone I'm here because I do not know where else to go and , whom else to talk to .. My boyfried ended our relationship a few days ago and I can not stop crying it was a 6 yr friedship and a 1yr relationship... I was in love with him way before we started dating ... i livedthrough soooo ma of his relationships... and I was always there as his best friend and then we endup together... ut only for a fe months... i got pregnant and i had a misscarriage5 weeks later because of my medical condition, then we stop having sex, (he never found out i was pregnant) then a few days agohe tell me he just wants to be friendsbecause my mother hates him and he will not like it if my mother insults his family...i dont know what's wrong ... but i cant top crying ... ineed him... we lost a baby !! I cant cope with it alone !

February 2, 2005
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hi Marga, welcome! and remember you cannot change how he feels or what he wants..he is what he is...you though can do something, maybe read some coda books, keep checking out these threads, post on these threads and know that things will be ok.

(((i am truely sorry too for the loss of your baby)))). Feel your feelings, and when things calm down, maybe try to talk with him and see what he wants to do, don't be afraid of the answer. All & all if you talk with him you will know the options and then take time to figure things out.

I wish you comfort. ((camer)))

February 2, 2005
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Can you just be friends with him after all of that? Find other supportive friends to talk to. You don't have to talk to him. He can't be there for you the way you need him to be.

February 2, 2005
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Try to be patient. I know, easier said then done. But sometimes people just need their space and they come back. I know it's not fair when they walk out. You feel abandoned. My heart is with you.
Maybe he really does have a problem with your family? I know that even before my husband cheated, even when things were OK, I had a problem with him family and so did the rest of my family. They were all diagnosed Schizophrenics, my husband is not but they all are and I can't begin to tell you the tension it has caused.
Family can cause alot of problems. Someitmes you have to push them away (gently) to make your own life work.
You mentioned a miscarrage, I'm very sorry for that. I know the pain, I had 3 due to my medical condition.

I hope you can find little ways to cope without him, think about the times when he wasn't in your life? Were you OK?
Single can be so good sometimes but we have a hard time realizing it. We tend to believe that someone else can make it better, they can help us cope, make us stronger people. Enevitable we are here alone right?
We are born alone and we die alone. Whatever happens in between, seems to makes us who we are but shouldn't get blinded by the hurt and allow ourselves to drawn in the pain and misery. We have to face the hurtful world, strong!!
And if things are meant to be, trust me; they will be.

Believe me, I understand more then you know. My prayers are with you.

Betrayed30

February 3, 2005
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thank you eerybody , prayers are very much appreciate it , I am sooo tired of crying , everysigle day , i feel ugly, i feel orthles, i feel sad, and i feel like there is no place for me on this earth, i feel like i have no one, Iavenoone in this country but my immediate family, and they are not very supportive, I came tothis country running away from an abusive husband and i do not go back tomycountry because I fear being there and now I feel even worst... Hi family was my family and now I do not know how to ask for their hep either , no one knew about the miscarriage but I feel like I nee to let someone know or I will be completly devastaed..
Thanx again for everything , everyone
Margarita

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