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Is therapy - pretty much - hit or miss?
April 13, 2009
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I dunno.

I have my reservations.

Then again, maybe I might 'luck up' and come across someone whom has eventually defeated 'their own demons' and has something really concrete and valuable and wise to offer me as a result.

Do you suppose that I am being too demanding, in this regard?

Do you suppose that it is TOO MUCH to ask....honestly?

I honestly just don't know.

But I can't - for the life of me - imagine myself accepting 'advice' from someone 20 or so years younger than I am....someone still kind of 'wet behind the ears' no matter what level they have acedemically (spelling?) achieved?

The older I get, the more I find it harder and harder to really tap into anyone with any general wisdom of life!!!!!

Is this too much to ask??????

Believe it or not, the closest thing I have come to has been some rabbis. (spelling?)

To me, so far as I am concerned, rabbis are not foriegn to the basic questions of life.

Maybe that's where I ought to start?

I dunno.

To me, it feels as if one of the only religions that is OK in questioning things..............

Maybe I just ought to go to the local temple and see for myself.......

(Sorry for rant - just kind of talking out loud here, ya'll.......)

April 13, 2009
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when you mentioned accepting advice from someone 20 y/o or younger, are you speaking of a "therapist"....or maybe you can shop around for therapists and see which one gives you good vibes for opening up.

April 13, 2009
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TruthBtold
I feel you on this one=)

April 13, 2009
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Camer,

Yes, I was speaking about a therapist.

I have serious reservations that a 20/25/30 somthing year old would ever be wise enough and experienced enough in life - just in general - to give me anything very meaningful/something that I can use!!!!!

Acedemics is one thing.....fighting your own personal demons and have enough hudspah and moxie and age under your belt to come clean out the other side with something really meaningful and insightful to tell someone else about the whole ordeal - ahh - well, quite another, I suspect!!!!!!

That's my take, anyways........

Who knows with this unstable economy?

Maybe the intelligent and wise elders among us, as it were, might simply just have this area already and rightfully cornered simply by personal default and the experience of the process of elimination so far as true personal happiness and the meaning of life, in general is concerned?????

Maybe?

I for one have 2 very open ears...............

But I sincerely doubt that someone a third or half my age could ever hope to attest to....in this reagrd!

....not really!!!!!!

April 13, 2009
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well, go for the older more distinguished lady or gent for therapy, tt a few over the phone, get a feeling for what they can offer and take it from there. 🙂

April 13, 2009
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The thing I liked about my therapist was she could take the conversation where it needed to go. I could have rambled on and got no where if she had not asked the right questions.

I think their job is to help us figure this stuff out ourself. Because I think we all have our own answers inside us we just need help figuring them out sometimes. Just my humble opinion anyway.

And yes, she was older than me....that probably helped!

April 13, 2009
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Is therapy - pretty much - hit or miss?

No. It's not. We may not click with every therapist and may need to shop a bit for someone we're comfortable with, but therapy itself works quite well if a person is open to the process and willing to work hard.

I've seen different therapists at different times throughout my life, and I've always gained something from the experience.

Mary

April 14, 2009
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what Mary said is so true....being open with yourself, and letting things out with the therapist.

shop around, till you find one that you click with 😉

April 14, 2009
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After my divorce I took my kids to therapy, the therapist was an older woman grandmotherly and it just didn’t seem to be a good fit for any of us. I then went to a man therapist and the kids made a good connection with him but I was not open for receiving any help or advise, my mind was made up that I was there for the kids, period.

Years later I went to another therapist a woman who was older and I was very open and she helped me tremendously.

A couple of years ago my niece came to live with me and I got her into therapy, the therapist was very young and both my niece and myself clicked with her and again she was a big help to the both of us.

I think it really has to do with with mary and camer said, being open to the process of therapy.

I have found that when I was attending al-anon often, it was hard receiving advice from someone young, someone without life experience.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

April 17, 2009
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I think its all about connection and what you need. and sometimes they make us see things we don't want to . If you don't feel comfortable with a young person find an older person.

I for one have found therapy to have helped.

BBlue

April 20, 2009
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I suppose much of what we get out of therapy is what we put into it. So, if we can't establish an openness for a therapist for whatever reason...we should seek one for whom we can - for whatever reason.

My therapist helped me during my hard times.

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