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is my marriage over?
July 26, 2005
4:56 pm
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spagetti
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I do hope some one can offer me some advice. I have been married for 7 years, been together for 10 years, during the last 6 years we have had three children. we are blessed! but mean while i have been sexually abused by my husband the last time it happened was about a year ago.i told him then never again will it happen and in his defence it never has but i fear that its too late, the damage has been done.i got talking to one of my friends husbands and we got a little too friendly i did not break my wedding vows. when i realised what was happening i asked my husband to leave i finally seen all the wrongs he had done and all that it had done to me.he now knows the whole story about my friends husband as does my friend which of course she is no longer my friend infact i am havin numoruos deaththreats from her which is slighty concerning as she is very mentally unstable.my husband is not living at home and the pain is quite unbearable i do love him dearly really i do and i am very scared of what my future holds a single mum with three kids living in a close knit community where every one already knows my buisness as my previous friend has made it common knowledge ive always been so strong and always known what i wanted but right now in this very moment in time i have lost my faith in myself i do love my husband but i did fall in love with my friends husband . what a mess can any one offer support i am very alone ?

July 27, 2005
3:11 pm
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Have you considered marriage counseling? If you put the focus on working on your marriage you won't feel so in-love with this other man that doesn't sound like a viable option.

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July 27, 2005
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well since yesterday we have spoke ,me and my husband that is ,about counselling he is going to go counselling to hope fully come to terms with his problems and you never know to possibly over come them .which is good news . we did discuss me taking up some counselling to try to repair the damage that has been done to me . i do beleive your right in saying the other man is not really a viable option as much as i feel despretly in love with him i am not stupid and i do see that a life with him would deffinatly have alot of problems.
me and my husband have alot to lose like i said before i do still think the world of him i do intend to give it my best shot.
although i see him testing me this evening telling me about a woman he's been visiting and doing odd jobs for which did annoy me slighty (beins he never does odd jobs for me! in our house)but i think he wants me to bite,if you know what i mean.
Its a very emotional time for me right now and i think the other man has really just doubled my problems .I am finding it incredably hard not to call him and see how he is , but i know if i call him then ill just want him , long for him. i do pine for him so much,to have someone make you so intensly happy when you have been so very unhappy for so long and then to be denied this happiness is the hardest thing ever.how am i to resist knowing that he is just a phone call away????

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