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Is it too late???
June 30, 2007
12:27 pm
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Lisa Ann
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Well, my ex-boyfriend got back from his fishing trip, and I got the email that I have kind of been preparing for. He told me that he is in a lot of pain and does not want to wait for what might be or not be. He needs time to heal, so he does not want to see or talk to me. I do understand this and it hurts. I never meant to hurt him so badly. I am needing space so I can get emotionally healthy so that he and I can be together and have the future that we have always wanted. But, now I'm afraid that will never happen. I just can't picture my future without him. I miss him so much and just want to talk to him face to face, so he understands what I'm thinking and feeling. The last thing I ever wanted to happen was to lose him. I love him so much, I can't stand to see him hurt like this.

I have sent him a letter trying to explain what I am feeling and why I am doing what I am, and I told him that I would respect his wishes if he wants me to totally leave him alone, but that is going to be so tough. I am waiting to hear back from him, and I know there is a chance I might not. Again, that will be tough, but I have to respect his wishes.

Why does love have to hurt so much? Will I ever be able to totally get over him?

June 30, 2007
6:57 pm
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Lisa..
let him heal, do whatever he needs to do, he is being honest and if he is truly sure that he does not want to see or talk to you, you will only drive him far away by not respecting his wishes.

It is a hard thing to deal with...love hurts because we have placed so much dependency on another for our fulfillment..which is wrong, but we still do it!
but I have come to believe...REAL love does not hurt! real love is having someone that compliments you..not that they NEED you ..or you NEED them.

give yourself some time to heal and figure out what you want...
I have done that, did a lot of soul searching and working on myself.
now I am HAPPY alone and I will not bring someone into my life that will hurt me or that does not love me for me.

nor will I bring someone into my kids lives without a serious commitment...
I do not need to hurt them too.

you will get through the pain, it DOES get easier..but you have to trust yourself and your decisions and it really is true that you cannot really love someone unless you love yourself first.

I hope this helps a little..it is tough to tell you this right now, as you are in the beginning stages, which I was and hopeless and did not think the pain would ever EVER go away...and I kept having expectations of my ex and I getting back together.having our 'family' once again...then I realized

the kids and I ARE a family!
and I am at peace with the decisions in my life and where it is taken me and will continue to!

there really really is hope!!!

nvr

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