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Is it really over?
February 27, 2007
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After a 6 yrs relationship it has ended. I am somehow thinking at some point we can be the best of friends, but is that true? Or am I just trying to face the end with a false sense of reality. We've agreed to months of no communication,this after years of talking but no real communication anyways! Frustration sets in.....

February 27, 2007
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If you couldn't communicate when you were together, why do you think real communication is going to happen when you've broken up? You may be able to get past being hurt and angry with each other or whatever caused the break-up, but if you weren't the best of friends before, odds are that you won't be in the future either. I think you are just trying to let yourself down easy.

February 27, 2007
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After five years with my ex, I finally had him move out. He always thought we would get back together (having told me so), but this time I was done. I was so bitter and felt I could never be friends with him as long as I lived. A year or so went by, and the bitterness and resentment went away. We began talking again, just about life in general - he would often ask me for advice about work or dating relationships. We built a friendship, and I'm glad that we did. We are much better friends than we ever were partners. We both grew up a lot, and it's been 8 years since we split up. We still talk. So, it can happen.

February 27, 2007
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Break ups are very hard indeed and painful. A big part of trying to accept the break up is by accepting the loss of it. It truly is hard. wanting to keep the relationship even if it means just being friends. Really you need to ask why you want to be friends, and if it is going to be too hard for you. Are you just doing it because it is too painful to break away or do you really want to be friends. I have heard in divorce it is best to have little communication unless there are children involved because it is time to recover and find yourself. How can you concentrate on recovering and yourself if you are still wrapped up in some kind of relationship with the person you have broken up with? It is tough as you are the only person that knows if you can handle it. Do it for the right reasons and not to just hang on. You will heal faster if you let go completely and let the wound heal and then go back to being friends if you still want it when you recover. Maybe think of it as a test. In the end you have to be able to handle whatever comes your way. Good luck.

February 27, 2007
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((3xs a lifetime))
I cant really give any advice I can only sympathize. My boyfriend and I are breaking up after a year and some months and even tho its a somewhat abusive relationship I still see me holding on and not wanting to let go. Partially because for me, a year is a long time to be with a person and to suddenly be without them is hard. I keep asking myself is it me? Or something I could have done? But its not me and I know this, but I wish he would change but hes getting worse. Six years? I dont know how I would handle that. Good luck. I know that my boyfriend is not a good person so we shouldnt even try to be friends. So again I say to you good luck.

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