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is it possible to be kind and abusive ?
July 27, 2009
2:21 pm
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We meet people, and everybody is on their best behavior in the beginning. Before long, an abuser will start his, or her abuse with which ever venom they chose. But before this act, they can be so kind, and loving.. like they know it is possible to have a loving relationship. Why then after their fits do they feel so bad, and then start to be kind and loving again like in the beginning. If an abuser meets up with an abuser, who will take the abuse?

July 27, 2009
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Most people will show you who they are with in the first 6 months of meetings. Some people just don’t want to accept who people really are and like good codependents they are, write it off and excuse away abuse.

Needy people seem to attract abusers, it’s as if abusers sense vulnerability and pounce. And once they pounce and are then rewarded for that behavior it just continues. A strong person would leave and leave for good especially if the behavior continued to be repeated. That’s why abusers continue to get away with it, they are matched with people who continue to take it.

Abusers and abusers in relationships are interesting, abuse comes natural giving and receiving so they may fair far better then the abuser and needy codependent do.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

July 27, 2009
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Atalose..

Iget mad at myself when I think about what you wrote. You have read my posts as well as other people, and I know it is true. I always try to see the best in other people and make excuses for their bad behavior. Now I see the best in me, and I dont want to even care about abusive people.. I dont care how good they can be. I am realizing that I am better than that, and I want better.

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