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ipw/jag.....where are you
May 16, 2006
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Hello. Hope all is well and that the day was good.

Jennifer

May 16, 2006
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Hey jenn,
All is well, irish is around here, doing well, she will be back on later, I had a good day, how was yours??

May 16, 2006
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My day was ok. Nothing too exciting, just another day.

I saw that IG was back. This is a relief. I was worried I had scared her away. I hope that things go well for her.

Anyway, just hang'n out for a while.

Jen

May 16, 2006
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Me too,
been on the road all day, just unwinding and getting some computer work done.

Had a good day, its funny, I have let so much go, I really dont think about her or anything about her, but I do find myself getting upset with me over the whole thing, when I talk about it, I feel really stupid sometimes, does that make sense Jenn??

May 16, 2006
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Yeah, I understand what you mean. For me, when I'm talking about him, it must mean I'm thinking of him. And then, I think that means I'm taking steps backwards, instead of forward. Is that kind of what you mean?

May 16, 2006
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kind of, but I feel stupid for letting myself be the enabler for SSSOOOO long. Its not thinking about her, its just being upset with ourselves because of what we did.

I am trying to look at this from the growth standpoint, I know I have grown, let go, and put everything about her in the perverbial garbage can.

Oh, and her best freind saw me the other day, well, I saw her too, was getting out of my car at the local coffee joint and she was about 50 feet from me, and boy did I look good!!! 🙂

May 16, 2006
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That's AWESOME, Joe!

Don't continue to beat yourself up over the past. It was a learning experience, and without it, what would we know NOW?

Just like we can't control the actions of another, the same goes for the past, it can't be changed. So we must take what we have learned, and apply it to our future.

Just my thought...

May 16, 2006
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I see what you mean, and you are right, sometimes though, I will beat myself up, I am hard on myself with certain things, especially those which I deem mistakes, even though it was not because I would not have learned anything nor would I be here today.

Yeah, since the breakup, I lost about 20, go to the gym at least 4 days, resolved that at 41, I am going to look and feel the way I want to.

It helps the EGO a bit when tyou need it!!!!

I know its wrong, but I really cant wait to "bump" into someone that I know will get back to her it is just a bit of satisfaction knowing what THEY are missing, isnt it??

May 16, 2006
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I know exactly what you mean, Joe. I'm in the process of weigh loss right now. Also, I was going to the gym regularly.

But I have slowed down with the gym, because my twin girls graduate on Sunday, and we have a TON to prepare for. It's been very overwhelming.

And yeah, I wish to look my BEST, when all these people come to town, (including "him", if he makes it)

Yep, it's a good thing to LOOK how you FEEL! It's great when we can match the two together!

May 16, 2006
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Jennifer, Where have you been? It seems like we haven't talked in ages! Is everything okay with you?

May 16, 2006
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yeah it is!!1

Well, Our little IG is back, its so good to be all together again.

homework done?

Irish, any thoughts or concerns about our earlier discussion? You gonna be ok at work??

May 16, 2006
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Hi, IG. I'm fine, just preparing for the big graduation. I'll be breathing better on Monday, after they receive their diploma!

Jen

May 16, 2006
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can we all come out to the graduation party????

it wold be the real bonfire we all could use!!!

May 16, 2006
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Jen, Congratulations!!! I hope you realize that it is your accomplishment as well as theirs!

Joe, I don't know about tomorrow. I'm so angry with him right now for all of the hurtful things he said. The difference is that now I know he's trying to get a response from me. And it isn't going to work!

Do you guys ever think that they said we were needy, but in the long run, it's them that can't stay away from us? WOOOHOOO! GO US!!!

May 16, 2006
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Yeah it is funny how we can be accused of something that portrays their own character! Even if what they say about us may be true, it doesn't mean that the same goes for THEM! ESPECIALLY once we have "backed off"! That is ususally when their REAL selves appear!

Yes, you are all invited to the graduation! And the party here will be very similar to the BBQ thread, minus the barn and horses!! (Yes, we actually DO have houses and cars, here in Montana!) LOL!

May 16, 2006
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You got it right, soeone I know called it transferrance, they are angry with themselves, as in my case, then she became REALLY angry with me, they want to be needed so they manipulate and try to say that WE are needy.

The best part is, once yu call them on it, its like you crush their ego, then they will back off, so, IG, hold your ground, and position, dont be angry, because he wins if you reply, LET IT GO, and go on with life as usual, when he does it again, then let him have it.

heres what I did, I wrote a 3 different responses to when and if she goes for contact, then I put them away, I will only send the most appropriate response, this way I do n ot have to worry about it.

That might be good for you too, journal if you have to, but keep letting it out.

Hopefully that will help.

IG, we are meeting at Jenns on Sunday for the party!!!! You in??

May 16, 2006
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I'm so in!!!! My best friend lives in Montana so I have already been there a couple of times. Joe, you'll love it....lots of country dancing!

May 16, 2006
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Thats trip we should all do!!! Kind of like a retreat for codeps!!!!

Jenn, how far is the nearest airport??

We could meet out ther, party for a long weekend!!

May 16, 2006
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The airport is right here in town. Can you believe, that we have our very OWN airport?! LOL!

May 16, 2006
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whoa!!! Lets see, an airport, country bars , and two of the best womenin my life!!!

i am a man who has died and went to heaven!!

May 16, 2006
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You ain't seen heaven yet, until you've seen MONTANA!

Montana was also one of the things I didn't want to give up, when I was with "him". Nor would I leave or uproot my girls.

May 16, 2006
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Has the weather improved since the BBQ? I truly hope it's nice for the girls' party!!

May 16, 2006
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The weather here, today is hot. We'll be in the 80's for the rest of the week.

But as the saying goes around here, "If you don't like the weather, wait 5 minutes!" And THIS is true! I've seen all 4 seasons in ONE day!

But for now, it's expected to be just comfortable.

May 16, 2006
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Darn it, I was just starting to have fun with guys again tonight and my son just got up sick. Gotta run!!

I'll be on as much as possible during the day tomorrow. Joe, please have the jokes ready...I'll need them!

Big Hugs to both you!!! SWEET DREAMS!!

May 16, 2006
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IG and I just pinky swore we would come HERE instead of to the weenie men in our lives when the weak moments set it. i figured i would rat us out right here, to the 2 of you, so we couldnt hide!!

We are women..hear us ROAR!!!

Hugs.....Snow

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