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Internet dating-here we go again
February 13, 2006
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I joined another dating site in January after taking a break for over a year. I had high hopes. I emailed a few guys- they never responded. I received a few emails, I responded briefly, no response from them. It is so frustrating.

today i received an email from a guyu that I connected with over a week ago. He is just getting around to getting back to me. He hasn't been very chatty, just more interested in tallking to me, but I'm not ready for him to have my phone number yet. Also- red flag- there's a picture of a beautiful sailboat on his profile so I asked him about it. He said it belongs to a friend. Why in the world would he show a picture of a boat he doesn't own? I thought that was rather strange.

So now I've emailed him back again, we'll see what happens. I feel like since he waited so long to respond that he's out of options, and just contacting me as I am low on the list. Hmmmm...

February 14, 2006
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Oh I know how you feel.. I have been internet dating for some time. There are so many fakes. It has taught me a good lesson not to trust everybody. Also, I'm more aware I attract players..the playboys, who emotional unavailable..From joining this support group, I've learned its safe. So think about it as a learning experience.

February 15, 2006
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Well surprise, surprise. I got another one today- Valentine's Day at that. Only thing is his title is "Must love kids and dogs" and I don't like either one! And the kids live with him. Other than that, he seems OK. I'll respond but that is NOT what I am looking for. Sigh.

February 15, 2006
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Why respond if you've already made the decision that he is not what you are looking for, that dosen't seem very fair.

If you want others to be honest, you should be too.

My friend has been doing this internet dating thing for a long time and has not really gotten anything out of it but a few friends and some really wierd guys..one even proposed on the first date!!!

February 15, 2006
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If its not what u are looking for then don't bother.

I have a daughter of my own but in my experience another persons kids are hard work. I am sure it isnt like that for everyone though.

My ex had 2 kids and once every two weeks when he had them they didnt really care if i existed if i tagged along on outings, it was hard and i felt the bond was never there.

As awful as it sounds when we would fight i would come out with, they arent my kids which they weren't if the argument was about them i mean, mainly his son as he used to barely answer me when i would talk to him.

Anyhow as much as i felt in some ways the bond with them didnt have to be that huge he felt differently, another one of the many reasons he ended it altho they meant nothing to him, his kids i mean, same way his baby that i was left with doesn't either.

I have gone all over the place but if u cant stand either dont do it....

February 15, 2006
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don't ever go out on a boat with this guy. I just heard a story about some sexual predator who used the internet dating sites to lure women on a boat so that he could assault them while out at sea.

yuck.

February 15, 2006
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Hi Free: I'm only going to respond to tell him that that situation isn't what I am looking for, and thank him for his interest. I feel that some response is appropriate, since he made the effort to email me.

One thing I hate about internet dating sites, is how rude it is to not respond to someone even if its negative. Sometimes I feel rejected by that, and its not a good feeling. Just acknowledging their note seems like a courteous thing to do.

Hi Bon Bon: I haven't heard back from that one yet- I am discouraged by his lapse of time between emails, he's not very chatty, and the boat thing is just plain wierd. In my younger days I went sailing w/ lots of guys and no one ever pulled anything but I knew it was a possibility. I met one guy- a pretty well known boat builder- who said "you're attractive enough"- huh? for what? He had a reputation as being a womanizer, and called me maybe 2 years later to see if I wanted to fly to Mexico and help bring a boat back. I knew what he was after and couldn't imagine that he would even remember what I looked like. I said no thank you.

Hi alycia: I understand what you are saying about the kids. I chose not to have any and so at this point in my life, I don't want to raise someone elses.

Well, I'll just keep trying.

I made a New Year's resolution to at least have a date this year!! So I want to make it a good one.

February 15, 2006
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sdesigns:

Just take that kind of dating as practice. It rarely ever came to anything I would consider keeping. I found that a bunch of the guys are just on there for a piece or for fun, but with no intention of having a relationship. On the extreme other end, there were a couple who were so desperate they wanted to meet my family on the third date.

It's been mostly an unreliable, icky situation. Met better men at church and groups to which I belong.

Good luck with it!

February 15, 2006
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hey everyone--been awhile since I ahve been here--but this is my internet dating story------It began with exchanging emails and then several phone calls. We then decided to meet and that went well. We have been seeing each other for over a month now. He is a very successful attorney-and treats me like an absolute queen. Now for the concerns that I have-he has already proposed and given me a beautiful engagement ring (which I took and felt slightly confused) Although we are not talking about an early marriage--it will be a minimum one year. The othere concerns I have are his two youngest children that are 6 and 2, which he shares custoday with their mother and is able to spend every other week with them. Am I ready for that as my youngest son is a senior in high school and I have a 2 year old grandson--hmmm --just some of my thoughts. Also , he lives 220 miles away which would require me to move as he already has a bigger, nicer home than I. plus his carreer is established. Mine is established here as well, but finding another job would not be an issue in my profession. I just feel confused and feel like things are moving too quickly and I always become frightened when this happens==any pearls of wisdom for me today??????

February 15, 2006
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angel: Why not start a post of your own on this? In answer to your question, beware. Anyone giving you a ring that quickly clearly isn't interested in getting to know you enough to marry you. If you were to get married, wouldnt' you want to know the person really, really well>

February 15, 2006
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It's always much more polite to at least respond and let people know you aren't interested rather than letting it just hang out there. That way you aren't just left waiting and wondering...

February 15, 2006
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I think it is ok not to respond if you aren't interested--some of the internet dating sites pick "potential mates" and randomly sends "winks" or other signs of interest without letting you know. It is impossible to know which are actually sent by the person versus being sent by the site. For that reason, I feel it is perfectly ok to not respond. It causes too much confusion.
I will start a new thread of my own--didnt' mean to be inconsiderate.

February 15, 2006
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Not a problem. You might be heard better on your own thread.

February 15, 2006
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If you start a thread,I certainly will join in.. Internet dating has become part of our dating culture..Alot of people will have good things to add.

February 15, 2006
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I will too!

February 15, 2006
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see perils and pleassures of internet dating for my story and pls everyone join in!!!

February 15, 2006
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sdesigns,

I'm doing the internet dating thing too.

If a man takes too long to reply I say forget him. If he's really interested he'll reply right away.

I need to feel pursued by a man and that means he really shows a lot of interest in getting to know me.

I met a lot of men through match.com but none that I wanted to get to know better. I always would met the man at a restaurant for dinner. That would give me enough time to evaluate him and see how healthy and self-aware he is.

I'm yet to run into anyone that seems dishonest or married or anything like that. It seems to me that all the men I have met were really looking for a partner.

But you never know maybe one of these days the right man will show up.

February 15, 2006
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Kathygy: I agree. The first guy just isn't holding my interest.

I just responded to the second guy and decided to answer his questions, ask some of my own, and chat a bit. He said he'll be gone this weekend but will be back Monday. I already like how he is conducting himself. He has many interests, is active, not bad looking, is tall, I assume makes a pretty decent living by what he indicated what his occupation, likes expensive sports, wants to work abroad, etc. Although he is into computers, he likes to do a lot of things, not just sit in front of the computer day and night.

So lots of positives, I think. We'll see how this goes. Plus he doesn't live very far away, maybe 1/2 hour tops.

Like Artist said, if nothing else, its dating practice.

February 15, 2006
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Yes, that's right. And don't keep yourself limited to the computer, if you're looking to meet someone. Join lots of organizations of interest, join a church, voluteer group, face-to-face dating services, etc. Men are everywhere...

February 17, 2006
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Well I was too quick to judge.

Found out his "kids" are two teenage boys- the oldest (19) lives w/ him and goes to college, the other (17) lives w/ his ex. So- I guess thats OK.

He also belongs to an investment club- another positive since financial security is impt to me.

He said he'll be gone for the weekend but will contact me Mon. So I like his responsiveness and that he's not leaving me hanging.

He likes to travel- Europe specifically- another HUGE positive.

I'm hopeful.

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