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Info on Meth Use. How hard is it to stop?
August 24, 2005
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I found out my husband is using Meth. He promises to stop. He has only slight withdrawal symptoms.....How can I tell if he's lying? What are the odds of someone stopping? He has his own business, looks like a nice handsome guy, people would NEVER know!!! Heck I didn't and I've been with him for 11 years!!!!!! Wow!!!! I am shocked, hurt, mad, confused, sad, mad, mad, mad!!!!!! Help me understand this !!!!!

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August 24, 2005
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Depending on how long of usage and how much it generally takes going into rehab to wean them off. I wish him and you the best of luck. If he really is serious about quitting that gives him a much better chance to succeed. Just be his support network. Also find a support group that caters to Meth users. I think there may be a link somewhere on soberrecovery.com

August 24, 2005
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Hey! I can actually offer insight on this one...

I did meth for about 8 months (June-February) and had no trouble at all walking away from it. (Zee coca was another story, but I'm finally off that as well).

I agree with SS, it all depends on how long and how often, for me it was only on weekends. You will definitely know if he is still on it - look for the symptoms - not sleeping, not eating, loads of energy, dramatic weight loss, talks fast and interrupts you when you speak, generally obsessive behavior (my favorite meth joke is "How can you spot the tweaker in a grocery store? He's the one trying to fix the wheels on the cart! LOL!)

Anyway, I hope he is able to stop, the effects on his health can be devastating otherwise.

Good luck and God bless -

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August 25, 2005
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Thanks you guys. I am so dumbfounded by this. If anyone else has anymore insight please post. I need all the info I can get. I am going to start going to narcanon meetings to help me understand. Thanks for the support.....

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August 25, 2005
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I think you will learn to take care of yourself in meetings. We can't change anyone but ourselves. The focus is acceptance of others and not accepting unacceptable behavior.

I can understand you feeling your feelings of betrayal. The good news is his habit is out in the open and you can now deal with reality.

Best of Luck

August 25, 2005
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Hi LVC,

I think going to Narcanon is a great idea. I attend Alanon and it was suggested to me that I attend AA so I could get a better perspective of what the addict is dealing with (of course, that was before I realized I was an addict as well, but that another story). I found it to be very helpful and gave me a much clearer picture of why addicts are addicts.

I would also suggest that you try Alanon for yourself. It's great to gain insight into the addiction but what is more important is to gain insight into your own needs....Alanon can help you with that.

Addictions of any kind can create so much devestation in people's lives and it is so important to learn to keep the focus on ourselves and not on the addict.

Good luck and keep posting.

Love,
Lolli

August 25, 2005
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Great info. Yes, I see myself becoming consumed with HIM. I need to keep myself focused on doing what's best for ME. I have been in counseling for the past 1.5 years dealing with our relationship problems. In that I have become very strong, so that is helping with this new "relationship" problem. I do not want to stay married I don't think. I will try to be supportive during this crucial time, but I don't think that I can heal enough from all the damage that's been done through the years to forget and move on......

Peace.....

LCV

August 25, 2005
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I have had the unfortunate experiences of living with 2 different meth users. I did not realize they were on meth until after the relationships were over. I knew they had used it every great once in a while, but I wasn't aware there was constant use until afterwards, when neighbors/friends told me. Yes they both lied to me during the relationships when I asked if they were doing meth. Now I know the signs and can spot a tweeker a mile away. The pupils tell all, sunken in face when they really do it constantly, violent fits of rage (throwing furniture, screaming, punching walls, physical intimidation), get pissed off over absolutely nothing, severe paranoia, lots of detailed cleaning & fixing things (they LOVED to take things apart & put them back together). I thought it was so sweet that they were cleaning the house while I worked....HAHAHAHAA!

Best of luck to you, it won't be a cakewalk.

August 26, 2005
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OMG Chontelle,

The signs you listed are ALL there, or were all there up until last Saturday. His face is not sunken in and I always thought his pupils were unusually small, NOT large. Those are the only difference, but the personality and rage and cleaning were all so present.....He was like a maniac ready to blow all the time. The past week has been much more peaceful, I'm actually the one raging now. I know I need to cut that out, it's not helping anyone, but I am having a heard time keeping the madness inside. That will come with time. I can't wait to be OUT of this!!!! Thanks for the info. Everything helps!!!!

LCV

August 29, 2005
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if he had a reason to lie about it before then chances are he has a reason to lie about it again and again if he is an addict. please look into alanon asap and get help together cuz if he was keeping something that huge from you, theres more wrong than the meth.

August 29, 2005
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OK. I am going to a NARANON meeting on Thursday. A friend of my husband came over on Sat and told him that he needs to get himself to NA meetings right away. I'm not sure if he will, but I am going because I am at a loss on how to deal with this. He seems to be doing so well, but I think it may be the calm before the storm.......

Thanks for all the insight and info...

LCV

August 29, 2005
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you go girl....

August 29, 2005
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This sounds stupid, but if your husband is a nice looking guy, you may be able to appeal to his vanity. Just do a google image search for "meth mouth" and show him the pictures. Believe it or not, the visual image is shocking sometimes it drives the deeper more serious concerns home.

-ella

August 29, 2005
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sorry, regular google search has more reliable medical info and image results.

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