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November 14, 2005
8:54 pm
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Hi this is my first time here. I have been looking on the internet b/c I don't know what is wrong with me. I believe I may be suffering from codependency. Sick thing is, I have been suffering for a long time.
I entered a relationship very quickly with a man going through his 2nd divorce at only 27. He was also trying to get cutody of his kids from his first marriage.
I fell in love with him & although I was warned by his own sister he was at least verbally abusive I stayed with him.
We won custody of his kids over the summer.
He travels with his job. I did all the work of a mother & housewife, even though I was not either. We only had the children for a little over 2 months, he was gone for an entire month of it. We got in a fight & I told him I was leaving which I felt was the only way to get him to listen, but I only sat in my car. About 30 minutes later, I saw him leave. After a small amount of investigating I found him at his estragned wife's house who had withdrew 3 grand from our account & was trying to put him in jail for abuse. Ilost my temper. I walked into her house, hit him & then took my little car & hit the back of his truck.
He called the cops on me. Let me sit in jail & called his first ex wife & told her to keep the children! I don't even know what to say. Of course this is the short version. He is an alcoholic. His first x wife is so unfit which is why she lost the kids in the first place but he just handed them over. I feel like he used me as his nanny. & I want to go back!!!!!!!help

November 14, 2005
10:56 pm
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Hey addagirl, Welcome 🙂 I am also just realizing w/in the past 6mos or so that i am codependent. DON'T FRET>>>there is hope. 🙂 First i would like to recommend a book called, "Love is a Choice". It is a godsend for me. I also have the workbook that goes w/ it. I picked that book up and couldn't believe how close to home every word hit! I have 3 threads posted on here, maybe you could read them and see just how similar (despite our differences of course), our situations are. "Codependency at its Best", "Enough is Enough", and "Taking a Stand". I have finally just done something about it. I feel really good about what has happened in my life recently. I feel free and truly happy for the first time in almost 12yrs. Yes i have stayed in this dysfunctional/codependent relationship for almost 12yrs!!! Better late than never, huh? Please come back to this site, and just read the threads, you will be totally amazed just how many people are going thru similar situations. It's nice to know you are not alone. GOOD LUCK 🙂

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