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In moving towards a healthier, happier lifestyle....I have now come to EXPECT RESISTANCE..................
June 22, 2007
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..both from myself and others.

Finally figuring this out has helped me to take some of the "edge off" associated with what can sometimes be paralyzing and debilitating fear.

Just makes sense (at least to my mind.)

EXPECT OTHERS (some) to resist my positive changes and not be completely "on board" with it.

EXPECT MYSELF to have a natural tendency to resist my own positive-induced changes and that that's OK.

It's quite natural.

I give myself a well needed break in that regard - now that I know a little bit better and come to expect this resistance as somethng that's just quite natural....all things considered.

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June 22, 2007
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hey truthBtold,
It feels uncomfy moving towards that healthier lifestyle, especially when you are not used to it. I know for myself I question the crap out of every situation and I need to quiet down my mind and just experience being there.

It is so normal to wonder how people are going to respond to the NEW way we are behaving. If the shoe was on the other foot, I know if my bf was making lifestyle/attitude changes I would feel uncomfy with that as well.

There will always be some resistance, this is good knowledge though.... cause one day, when we are in that healthy lifestyle we will have to understand when we are resisting someone elses changing! 😉

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June 22, 2007
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b,

Good point. I'll have to chew on that one for awhile. Thanks.

June 22, 2007
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change is hard...so to thrust OUR changes onto the people closest to us...of course you will meet with resistance...they didn't ask for the change...and most of the time, because they loved you as you are, they don't understand why it's necessary. Nor are they really sure they will like the "new you", cuz the old one was just fine as it was.

As for you...yeah, we resist change...it's alot of work...and old habits die hard...it's comfortable even if it's wrong.

the only person you can worry about is you....either the people around you will come around...or they will leave and leave you room to surround yourself with healthier minded people who will support your growth or the new you.

June 22, 2007
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truth,

Oh yes, there is fear, and there are people who will leave your life and people who will love you no matter whatever new path you are going down. For me, the fear went on for months, one and off, but then, it just seemed to turn into an excitement and anticipation of a new and better future in a new location doing and being "more me." Outer things, yes, but big inner changes too.

And, yes, people left my life. I thought my best friend was gone forever, she was gone for awhile, but we reunited and we are better friends than we have ever been before, and now I am an inspiration for her getting her self together. And, yes, other people left, but that's okay. I sometimes think I wasn't paying attention, but these few people who left weren't really supporting me, never had anything pleasant or encouraging to say to me. They were just there. But, other existing people in my life who are still here.......wow, I really see them for the great people they are now, and I am so happy for some new people that have come into my life.

Life is constant change. As one door open, another closes. Its right, its natural, and its okay.

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