September 27, 2010
Hi Friends. I could do with some insight and guidance right now. I'm in the process of leaving a longterm partner. I love him, but I'm no longer attracted to him sexually. I've met someone else who I think I'm in love with and want to be with. Why am I unhappy? Because I feel in an emotional desert. I feel comfortable with my old partner-probably because of the years we've spent together. With my new partner, he is not very emotionally or physically expressive. He does a lot for me, and I know he cares for me. But there is something missing. I've thought about it, and I think I feel unfulfilled by him emotionally. But I don't know what he could do to put it right. I've tried hugging him more, but it makes no difference to how I feel. I've been to counselling with my old partner and it didn't work. To him, sex is a big thing, and it's the last thing I want with him, so you can see why it can't work out. But I know that when all the financial side is sorted, he wants me out of his life-he's told me, and I can understand that. But then I'll be loosing the one person who I feel emotionally comfortable with. I've asked if we can stay together but as best friends, he said he wants the lot or nothing. I don't know what to do or which way to turn.
September 30, 2010
You may not be ready for another relationship. Its too soon and your judgement is likely to be off. Just because you fall in love with someone that doesn't mean they are the one. Its just chemistry. If you feel like something is missing you'll never be happy with him. You may need to spend sometime alone before getting involved again.
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