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I'm too chicken to quit my job
September 18, 2001
6:50 pm
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kgirl
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I started a new job a month ago, but I am
not happy and I want to quit. I am too chicken to tell my boss, because I don't
want to dissappoint her or cause her trouble
because she will have to find a replacement.
I know this is soooo codependent. I'm such
a people-pleaser. Does anyone have advice
or support for me?

September 18, 2001
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Do you have another job lined up? One that you are more excited about? Employers tend to understand departures if people are leaving to do something that they are passionate about, rather than leaving because they hate where they currently are... 🙂

September 18, 2001
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Business is business, and don't think that if the bottom line was in question, that they would hesitate to let you go. Sad but true, so if it ain't what you thought it was, and do suggest that you have some thing lined up before you split, hit the road, life is to short, and if it is not what you want, then you wont give it your best, so move on. Remember, business is business, and after you give sufficient notice, let the person know that you still want to be friends.

September 19, 2001
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kgirl,

I'd say that if you're not happy, then go. I've been in your shoes before. I too was a peoplepleaser instead of watching out for my own best interest. But, there came a time in my life when I had to stop this. I was at a job where I was miserable,they didn't appreciate me, and I just dreaded going in. So, I went and found a new job and once I knew I had it, I gave peoper notice and quit. Remember, your best interest first, their feelings later. But, I do recommend that before you quit, you find another job.

Take Care,

pg lova

September 19, 2001
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kgirl,

I too am in a situation where I would like to move on and quit my job. The part that concerns me is that I like my job and the only thing that is holding me back is the dedication to my boss who has helped me from the start. If I had ever liked an manager she is the one. She is very helpful, understanding and this is the part that I dread. The part of going into her office after she has assisted me in so many ways. She too doesn't have it easy as a manager. I am also moving to another city being scared of the new job, and what job I am going to end up with. I know I have what it takes to get where I am going but it is hard as there are so many things to consider. I will be leaving my friends, family, job, home and moving to another city to start from the bottom again. I know I have to do it but remember it is always easy to find a job while working.

A friend of mine made me look at his point of view. "any job can be replaced", The dread of going into the bosses offices and starting the conversation to let her know that you are leaving.
Just to think, if there was no money, they would have no hesitation to let you go. I guess you have to take care of number one and go on to better things in life. "To what makes YOU happy.

Best of luck,

Don't loose something that might affect you tomorrow, your happiness. There is always something when we least expect it....

Cerry

September 19, 2001
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Thanks for the input. I thought I'd
let you know I talked to my boss today
and gave my notice. I explained the
situation and she was very understanding. Luckily, I am not working for the income, just trying to
find something constructive and fullfilling to do with my time. Normally I would have kept the job and
tried to like it, even if I wasn't happy, because I am not used to thinking about what is right for me.
I know in my head you have to do what is right for you (when you can, remembering not to be selfish) but it is not always easy to do. I have irrational guilt and worry about what
people will think of me. So I feel good about standing up for myself in this instance. Thanks for all the advice!!
Kgirl

September 19, 2001
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kgirl,

Good for you. Thats the spirit. Now that must have taken a load off of your shoulders. How do you feel, better. Its not always an easy thing to do especially if we feel we are hurting someone but staying there will not make YOU happy either. Good for you....
Cerry

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