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i'm sad :(
December 12, 2003
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shana
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I've never been here before but I was looking all over to try and get some "anger management" advise. I am relatively young, and have alway had a mundane attitude about life...basically you just live it with no real point, and that is what I have done. however I find myself getting increasingly more angry with everyone and everything around me. When i am not angry I am sad, and I don't know what to do anymore. I am really afraid that I am going to explode and don't know in what direction to go in anymore. I can't understand how some one can want to be happy so bad and cant find it anywhere, and if you can it has a price, sure we will give you advise but we will charge you $30 everytime we talk to you. who cares that you work 7 days a week to put yourself through school and can't afford it, too bad. i just feel stupid and selfish for feeling so horrible all the time...like i dont have a right. sooo I just don't know what to do anymore. any advise? plz help

December 12, 2003
12:58 pm
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Shan. Your unhappiness is your
choice. This has an effect on
your aura and people will pick up
on it. Everybody deals with
struggles. It builds character.
I remember when I worked 7 days
a week and went to school and
supported my(ex) wife and child.
You know what? That's the happiest
taht I have ever been in my life.
You know why I was needed. I had
goals I had dreams. This is such
an enormous componant of self
esteem. What is causing you
so much inner turmoil? I suspect
that you are looking for too
much outside validation. Have
you prayed to your higher power.
Sometimes that will help. Don't
be hard on yourself then you won't
be hard on others. Let yourself
be.

December 12, 2003
1:52 pm
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Shana,

"i just feel stupid and selfish for feeling so horrible all the time...like i dont have a right" If you spend time reading on this board, you'll find that said more than once here. Said it myself. You do have a right to your feelings, and just because you don't understand them, doesn't mean they're not valid.

There are options. Support groups, books, talk with friends and most importantly take time to listen to yourself and working on being the person you'd like to be. Why aren't you happy? Somewhere inside, you do know, but you won't tell yourself untill you're ready to hear it.

Hope that didn't sound too lame, Shana. Maybe if you mix in support groups or even social groups with some reading and just use a counselor periodically to just guide you? I know how it can be with money, but, YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Good Luck,
Susie

December 12, 2003
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Try to take a step back and look at the big picture. I found that so difficult when I was young. I think often we are right smack in the midst of happiness and don't even realize it.

Self nuturing, seeking out people, places and things that bring you happiness is so important. Take a minute to figure out what would bring you some relaxation and happiness... and then make it happen 🙂

I wish you the best.

December 12, 2003
4:59 pm
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Harry is right, it is a choice. You can just be, or you can be a victim. I have lots of practice and know. Hope you choose happiness!

December 13, 2003
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Fa Fa Fa Fa Fa
Otis Redding

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa

I keep singin' them sad sad song y'all,
Sad song is of all I know.
I keep singin' them sad sad song y'all,
Sad song is all I know.

It has a sweet melody, tonight,
anybody can sing it, any all time

It got to your heart, put you in a groove,
and when you sing this song, it will make your whole body move

it goes

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa
Your turn

I'll turn
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa (fa)
Your turn now

All my life I've been singin' them sad song
trying to get my message to you.
But you see, only song y'all, I can sing
and when I can you singing, my message will be to you

It goes

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa
Your turn now

It's a lovely song y'all,
Sweet music honey,
It feels to life over,
It tells a story over,
You got to get your message
A stone message honey
A lovely line baby
I've been wanting a line..watch it

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa
Your turn

Everybody it's good
Everybody

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa

One more time

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa

Throw me the line y'all

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa

December 13, 2003
12:19 pm
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Hey - you might consider the fact you are clinically depressed - not only emotionally. I am - and take anti-depressants. That helped so much.

I have been on them for several years and am now trying to wean myself from them to see how I'll do. Being on them really helped me deal with my depression and move on, however.

If you want to be happy - you must take the steps to help yourself - through therapy, support groups, etc. The fact you are on this site means you are seeking help for yourself!

If cash is tight - there are places and therapists who offer sliding scale fees. This is what I used when I was on a tight budget.

December 14, 2003
11:37 am
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Hi Shana,

I agree with Liba, I think first and foremost you might want to talk to a medical Dr. about what you are feeling. Continous anger is not good, and depression is often times anger turned inward.

I suffer from hereditary despression, and anti-depressants have made a world of difference for me. I went through a phase there for a while where I was embarrassed, ashamed and angry that I had to take these, and tried to wean myself off of them.

HUGE MISTAKE! - Then I talked to my Dr., and he made a great point. He said "if you were diabetic or if you had high blood pressure, you would take your medication and not think another thing about it. He was right. So, I take my medications and they do help me deal with life.

But, the other part is going to a counselor, and also working on myself to the point where I am happy with myself and my life. Not all the time, but who is.

You might find a therapist who will work on a sliding scale. Or, you mentioned that you are in school. Many times they have counselors there at the college or university who you can see for free or for very little. Another option, call the United Way, and have them set up an appointment for Family Guidance. At a time when I needed it the most, living on my own, recently widowed I saw them for a fee of $5.00 a session.

Good luck,

Zinnie

December 15, 2003
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Shana, I totally understand what you mean. It's weird because I'm a pretty calm person I think, but I have this temper...comes out of nowhere. And then there's the sadness and apathy...I totally understand.

One thing you can do right now is to list all the things you are grateful for. Right before I go to bed, I take 5 or 10 minutes to think of the people who helped me in some way that day, and I try to remember my feeling when I was talking/listening to them. Sometimes all I can think of is the friendly mail carrier who bothered to ask me how I was doing, but somehow giving thanks really teaches me about myself.

Maybe this sounds too simple, but it really helps me to get back to my feelings when I am being...mundane.

December 15, 2003
2:21 am
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Shana,

You said you're in school...is it college? When I was attending college, I fell into depression. Luckily there was a counselling center on campus that offered free services to students. I even got the chance to meet with a psychiatrist that hooked me up with some meds...and that was the best thing I think I have ever done for myself.

Other options (cheap/free ones) are crisis hotlines and the local mental health center. A book you can check out from the library is "Feeling Good" by David Burns.

I sincerely hope you decide to go get help. See, I had never known, until I went to see someone, that I had lived a life never knowing happiness. I was diagnosed with severe depression. My counsellor explained that my body had forgotten how to take up or make those "happy molecules," those neurotransmitters that make you feel happy. So, in otherwords, my body lost the ability to be happy. And I never thought anything was wrong cuz that was how I lived life for so long.

Keep us all updated, okay. You can come here for help too.

take care, friend,
vegas

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