Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
Im not good enough
November 12, 2005
2:56 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I am just not doing well I feel like im not a good enough mothe not a good enough wife and i know im a terrible house keeper my house is a mess. Im just feeling realy down for some reason

November 12, 2005
3:16 pm
Avatar
sdesigns
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 30
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

RW; You are doing the best you can. Do you realize how many hats you are trying to wear? Mother, wife, student, employee? That is enough to wear anyone out? Can't someone give you a hand?

November 12, 2005
3:19 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

actualy i ended up quiting my job I couldnt handle it

November 12, 2005
3:28 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I hate this feeling the feeling of worthlessnes. I feel like if i was only smarter or better somehow Things could have been diffrent for me

November 12, 2005
3:47 pm
Avatar
exoticflower
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I'm going through something similar right now, RW, I feel terrible for you and your pain. You recieved the message from a very young age that you where not deserving of good treatment, that you where bad, wrong, deserved punishment, etc. As adults, we carry messages like that around, especially when they have been constantly driven into our heads the whole time we where forming our opinions and self worth as children and young adults.

I have seen you post about your children, and I KNOW ou are a good mother. I know you love your boys, that your heart aches with every bad thing that happens to them, that you don't just close the door and let the m scream and trash the house when you have had enough (some mothers do, you know), but post for advice about how to entertain them and make them happy while staying sane yourself. You are ARE a good mother.

As for being a good wife, sit down and make a list of what YOU think is important to being a good wife. Think about where you get teh idea you are not. i know you love your husband, I have seen you here frequently working on you and thinking about your marriage and wanting to grow for it as well as yourself. I think you are a good wife--maybe not perfect, but who here is? No one.

The house: Ugh, don't get me started. I only have one, and she;s a girl, and half the time it's a PIT. The fact is, I can get to the house, but my little girl is growing so fast, I'll never be able to go back to that if I miss it cleaning. Also, it is hard being a mother, hard working on yourself, hard looking at the past and linking it to the present and trying to make it work for you now. Especially when you wish it would just go AWAY! Depression is hard, it's a daily challenge when it's at it's most powerful. Go easy on yourself, baby steps. Maybe tidy up so you feel good about where you are, and do a little more tommorow, and a little more after that. You already have so much on your plate, RW.

You are not a bad person, sweets, you are having a bad time and facing it full on at every turn, you should be very proud of yourself. ((((Julie))), go easy on yourself, the messages you have that you are bad, defective, wrong, those messages where put there for the wrong reasons, it just isn't the truth. We love you RW, and hope you can remember to love yourself too!!

November 12, 2005
3:53 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

thank you ef you are a sweetheart. How do you rewrite what has been written into your heart and mind?

November 12, 2005
4:39 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I feel like part of me is searching for help but is afraid to get hurt

November 12, 2005
4:42 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

You are Enough. Keep telling yourself that and you soon will believe it. Focus on the things you can change and do something about the stuff you want to change. You are Enough. You are Enough! Reprogram that internal script!!!!!

November 12, 2005
4:46 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

All I feel like doing is crying but I cant

November 12, 2005
5:03 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

What can you do to be part of the solution?

November 12, 2005
5:11 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

i dont know

November 12, 2005
5:12 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Are you willing to try something new?

November 12, 2005
5:12 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

im about up for anything right now

November 12, 2005
5:16 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Great!

Tell me one thing that you are grateful for?

November 12, 2005
5:17 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

my children

November 12, 2005
5:18 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Excellent. I read how your son gives you kisses!

Okay, What's another thing?

November 12, 2005
5:20 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

that I have medical insurance

November 12, 2005
5:21 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Yes, Medical Insurance is really important to have these days in order to take care of ourselves and family.

What's another thing you are grateful for?

November 12, 2005
5:22 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

That i have a place to live

November 12, 2005
5:24 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Shelter is really important! Is it raining there right now? It is here closer to the coast. I love how the rain makes everything Green!

What's another gratitude item to add?

November 12, 2005
5:25 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

That I have a church to go to

November 12, 2005
5:26 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Spirituality is so important!

Can you list some more?

November 12, 2005
5:28 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I have a husband that loves me. that i am able to go to school on line. and I have a wonderful support group to go to and that I have medications to help me

November 12, 2005
5:28 pm
Avatar
mj
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

RW,
I find if I exercise an attitude of gratitude and keep it handy to reference when I am feeling out of sorts, then I am able to pick up a foot at a time and get moving again and do something positive for myself.

I have to go now but I hope to see that you stay focussing on gratitude until you Feel Enough Just Being !

Love to YOU

November 12, 2005
5:30 pm
Avatar
Randomwomen2
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 9
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

thank you mj I think i need to pray more and maybe I will find peace

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 349
Currently Online:
40
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 111121
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38715
Posts: 714567
Newest Members:
lovingLaa, zokgassi, Wilthe, Marek, ssdchemical33, jack1palmer
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2021 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer | Do Not Sell My Personal Information