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im being bullied
May 24, 2006
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Ive been living in my flats for 32 years and ive tryed to be mates with people but the take a dislike to me because of the way i look , and that im open and say what i think .

4 Years ago a ment to be friend just stoped talking to me for no reason . Then she began to say nasty things about me to others . Then her sister joined in and others from my flats joined in . As im not very popular and i will not go and get drunk , pull different men each week , and i will not sis around a talk about others .
So the other people are in the same group . Then 2 of the girls started to say thing to my oldest son then puting me down in frount of them if they was playing out , as well as saying things about me if i walked pasted them . Then 2 years ago she began sleeping with my x boyfriend to try to hurt me but it didnt work , So they started to say even more nasty thing about me and to my kids . Then 1 of them went to far and went right up to my oldest son and put her face in his and said somthing rather bad to him , so i went to comfrount her but she was'nt in but her 11 and 5 year old was , I ask them to tell there mum if she would come and see me . She knocked on my door 2 hours later . Were she began calling my son a lier and shouting in his face so i pined her up to a wall and told her 2 leave me and my kids alone . She called the police and made me to be the bad person .
At night i get things shouted up at my window and thing said as i walk pasted them . On the 13 of jan 06 i filed a report about it all to the police , they came to see them 2 weeks ago to get them to stop . So she went to the laywer who wrot me a letter saying that i have to leave them alone .

It been going on for 4 years , me and my kids are getting all of it and when i try to get them to stop they make me to be the bad person . im falling apart and im at my lowest , i dont know what else to do . im also on the transfer list for 2 years but no luck .

I need help as im losing my mind , respect , and my will to carry on. Ive had to fight just be here now , Ive been through alot , Abuse in all ways all my life and all i wont is to be happy .

May 24, 2006
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ZeeZee,

I am sorry you are having a hard time with your neighbours. Is there an administrative Unit for your block? Could you have a word with the Manager or someone in a similar position? I can imagine how it feels to live among wolves and I am sorry you are feeling so low. I want you to rmemeber you are strong and will pull through this. Just stay strong.

I am sure you will have much more concrete advice soon.

((((((((Zee)))))))))))))))))

May 24, 2006
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until you can move maybe you can just try and ignore them? Just act as if they are not there. I know that is hard to do if they wont keep there mouth shut. If they confront you walk off as if you dont care. Ask your son to not tell you what they say anymore. Somtimes the best revenge is silence. They will eventually get the point that what they do dosent bother you and it will just blow over. If it dosent then your neibor has real problems.

May 24, 2006
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Ive tryed to ignore them my son comes home upset and angery at what they have said . They call my name out at night so i wake up and here what they are saying . ive tryed most to get them to stop . The more i ignore it the worse it gets . ive been on the list to get out for 2 years .

My kids are only 12 and 10 . They have had to deal with it for a for 4 years . Its hurting them witch hurts me . Im ment to look after them and make sure they are happy and have a good head on them , but how can i do that when they always here there mum being put down and hurt .

Im going out of my mind trying to stay strong for them

May 24, 2006
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geez sounds like a very crazy person you have on your hands. I am so sorry. Do you have family you can stay with?

May 24, 2006
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zeezee,

Your neighbors are treating you pretty harshly all right. It sounds like there's a difference in morals between you and them, which could be a factor in how they treat you.

If you don't mind my asking, what is it about the way you look that they don't like? You say you're open and speak your mind. What sort of things do you speak your mind about?

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May 24, 2006
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Zeezee, what you are going through sounds just awful.

You are obviously a strong woman with enough self-respect to stand up for what you believe and not just go with the crowd for peace sake. I am the same sort of person...I speak my mind and am not a fake...unfortunately there are a lot of fake people out there who will not like you for this. I am so sorry that this is now effecting your children. Is there any way possible you can get a transfer from this area at all? These people who are bullying you are doing so probably out of their own insecurities...after all isn't that why there are bullies. Because you are different they see you as an easy target, in actual fact somewhere deep down, these people are probably a little bit jealous of you and feel intimidated by your self-respect.

You have a few options:

1.Except the fact that in order to stand up for what you believe in, you will get flack like this from nasty people, hold your head up high and tell your children to do the same.

2.Get a transfer out of the area as soon as possible.

3.If you are going to go through the police...document everything, get a loan of a video-camera with sound to record these goings on, make sure you have plenty of hard-evidence on these bullies to put a stop to it. As you know, this option my take time to see any results, and you may have to endure even more abuse until the whole process comes to a conclusion...but if you are prepared to go this route...get yourself informed of your rights as a citizen of the country you live in. Is there a citizens advice bureau or free legal aid service near you? If so, I'd suggest going to see them too.

Good luck,
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May 24, 2006
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Thankyou all for replying .

Im on a transfer list ive been on it for 2 years .

The police have told me that the only way i can really get somthing done is if i get beat up by them .

The reason they dont like the way i look is because im tall 5-10 slim and blond [ real blond ] no matter what i eat i always stay slim . i alway look like i work out but dont . I say what i think and stand up for what i think is right if others think its wrong . I spend all my time looking after my kids while they are alway leaving them with different people because they wont to go out .

i have no-one to help me or stick up for me . My dad only cares if it effects him , but its not .
ive just got a letter from their solicitors saying that if i dont leave them alone they will take me to court . No matter what i do they are still getting away with it and making out its me all the time because i have no-one and they have people on there side .

May 24, 2006
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Hey just had a thought, what about a conceiled tape recorder. It may be helpful in this case. Then when you get somthing concrete, go and get a restraining order. Dont even tell your kids you have a recorder, you know how kids like to talk to their friends about these things, pretty soon it will get back to the "CRAZY NEIGHBORS.

May 24, 2006
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Hi- I just want you to know that I think this is sounds unbelievable. That seems to be my word lately. I know me and it would be so hard not to fight back with something like this, but its probably not the best thing to do. I would probably want to fight back but then I wouldn't because I am a big chicken. I was in counceling because of stuff going on too but then couldn't afford it. But is there anyway you could get counceling for you and your kids. Your kids maybe through their school, because sometimes there are places the school has to send you to. This is just a thought. I hope this helps.

May 28, 2006
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ive been fighting all my life all i wont now is peace and quite

May 29, 2006
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This may sound dumb but where r u from as i know we use flat here in aus?

Can u stay somewhere else temporarily? Afford to move? Get a restraining order out on them?

You need to be happy in your home and if someone was making my life a misery i would move.

If you cant afford it can u get a little loan to pay for moving and first months rent... even if you go somewhere small again.

I wish you the best... keep ignoring it though.... you would think they would get tired of it

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