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if he loves me can he forgive me for hitting him?
July 3, 2012
3:12 pm
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abalzer91
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I got too drunk this weekend, got in a fight with my boyfriend and I punched and kicked him. He called the cops and I got arrested for DV. We have a good relationship believe it or not. I'm not that kind of person. He's the last person in the world I would ever want to hurt. We were living with my mom and after I got arrested, he got all his things and left. There's a mandatory restraining order for 7 days. I need to tell him how sorry I am. His parents hate me though and I don't think they would allow him to stay there and date me. I need him back.
He's in the middle of a divorce and his ex had another child of his about 4 months ago(she got pregnant right before we met) and it just hurts me that he has a newborn baby with her and that the divorce isnt final yet. Its all slowly been eating me alive a couple of months ago me and his ex got in a fight. Neither of us pressed charges on the scene but his family is trying to get her to. We broke up for a week after me and her got in that fight and we couldn't do it. We got back together.
I'm wondering if we do get together again, will the DV charges influence custody with him and me being around the kids?
After the 7 days should I try to contact him?
If he loves me do you think he'll come back? (I've been there when he put our lives in danger in another state by getting drunk and getting into a fight with 4and men, he broke a huge hole in our wall, and had anger issues at work with punching things and breaking things) I always stuck by his side though through all of this and never left him.
I feel like he should give me a second chance.
I have a counseling merting set up for this friday.
I want to gethelp and I want him back so mad. I have such a deep feeling in me that I know he's the one.
please help!

July 3, 2012
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Don't worry. He'll be back.

July 3, 2012
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I'm praying and praying he does. Thank you.

July 3, 2012
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He will.

July 4, 2012
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I forgave a woman for hitting me. Consequently my child ended up dead.

If you are serious about making the relationship work you both need to get very serious about your substance abuse issues, about learning how to have a healthy relationship and being absolutely committed to no violence.

July 4, 2012
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That's not who I am. I'm not like that.
I've been in an abusive relationship before when I was being abused and kept forgiving him and it kept happening.
but I would never in a million years want to hurt this man. Ever

July 5, 2012
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You are probably right that you never would have thought that you could or would physically hurt this man that you love. Something has obviously been brewing for a very long time & for some reason, your rage became uncontrollable. Of course he will likely forgive you in time, but you need to speak to a professional to try and understand why you used physical force. Unfortunately the consequence of your rage resulted in charges, but those charges do not address the underlying emotional reasons for why it got that far. Likely this is not just your fault. Do not worry about his part, but find out for yourself how he might be provoking you into a state where you feel that you cannot walk away and instead take out your anger with physical violence.

July 27, 2012
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I am sure he will

September 24, 2012
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I guess that's possible considering you were drunk that time. But it's best to get rid off that kind of behavior so it won't happen again in the future. He might be just mad but in time he'll forgive you. Just be sincere with your feelings. And next time, whenever misundertanding arises talk it out smoothly and rationally.

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