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I will take it with me.......
May 31, 2000
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cerry
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I guess I can start by saying that we always wonder about that true love. It has been awhile now and I was devastated to the point where it almost destroyed me completely. There was a man in my life and now he is gone. It was the worst time in my life and I will never forget. To this day I think of this person and yes, I still love him. Even though he hurt me emotionally I don't hold grudges and wish him well. I could never go back because of the pain of the breakup as it would not be the same. I sense that he feels the same way but I have gone forward. I have met someone special. This person I do love buy once in awhile I would be reminded of the true love as I still to this day love him. I don't think I will ever see him again as he has moved away and don't know where. I don't want to know but in my heart a part of him is still there. Does this feeling ever go away or the thoughs ever diminish. How does one ever forget that special one. I guess they don't, they take it with them. Any thoughts
Cerry

June 1, 2000
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there will be a bit of him that you will cherish; every relationship goes throu ups and downs and you get out when the downs are more!! you've met someone an your words:
you've moved forward. time is a healer: it heals all wounds move on and make your life worth living and don't look back
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June 1, 2000
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This is humane. Yes , keep on remembering him. He was partialy responsible for a good (and bad) period of your life . He (and many other things ) is part of your memories and experiences . He ( and many other things ) is part of what makes you what you are . He ( and many other things ) is part of your growth .So , what is wrong with remembering good times (and bad) as long as it is not affecting negatively your current relations and your future goals ?! Suppose a very significant person to you have passed away, does this mean to forget this person ? Or is it better to remember the good times with him/her ?

Love has different aspects and if we keep loving some people who have hurted us , this is more than humane .

Our decesions , however , do not depend entirely on our sentiments and emotions. I have been divorced ( after 13 years of marriage ) for 5 years , and every day I remember some good times with my ex wife .

June 1, 2000
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cerry.....you're human and sounds as if your warm memories are within a part of your heart. Keep them, it;s good. A break up is definately better and healthier than a breakdown. Move on, as you are loving the special person who is now in your life.

June 7, 2000
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Hi,

I went the same thing until about two weeks ago when I discussed the situation with my husband. Although the relationship with my ex had ended about seven years ago, I still loved him. Unfortunately for me, there really were no bad times so I had nothing to hold on to to make me angry enough at him to move on. After discussing the situation with my husband, I realised that part of what I felt was built on my imagination of how good he was but in actuality, if he was such a good person, he should have had the decency to tell me the relationship was over. He apparently moved on long before I did and not for the reasons I thought and I carried around a lot guilt with me for a long time. I am so lucky to have such a wonderful person like my husband in my life now and what I do is try and focus on the future and not the past. It was wonderful but its over so I have to enjoy the present (and so do you) and stop pining for something thats forevr gone. Please put all your heart into this new relationship and very soon, all you will have will be distant memories. I don't think you'll ever stop loving him but the longing will definitely fade away.

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