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i was beaten by my now ex
March 17, 2010
12:52 pm
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recently ive been through hell my partner well ex wantied be to ave an abortion i was that in love with him i went through with.the day afer i ad the abortion he went out an got really drunk an he came home and attacked me causin a black eye and he triesd to strangle me he left after it had happened.i have reported him to police an hes now in hidin.i thought this man loved me an cared but he told friends it wasnt serious an it was just another fling so tellin me one thing an his friends another.he couldnt remember wat he did my 2 children saw wat happeened that night.hes done it to all the women that hes been with a friend of his told me he says all the same things to all his women he loves them ect ect an then beats them not long after.now im left on my own not sleepin or eating an dealin with it all by myself i m scared to sleep incase hes hangin around i cant go out without lookin over my shoulder how can a man do this its evil. i loved him an never did anythin to hurt him all i did was love respect an be there an this is now wat im havin to deal with.

March 17, 2010
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First off honey, don't beat yourself up over the abortion. It is done and there is nothing you can do about that.

Second you have to find a way to protect yourself and your children. I don't know where you live, but is there a battered women's hotline that you can call?

Keep posting here. There are excellent people who will show up and give better advice than me.

Is it possible for you to talk to a councellor and sort this thing out?

Did you file for a restraining order?

What did the police advise?

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March 18, 2010
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Stay strong and dont go back. I saw my mom get beat up and shot. It still affects me to this day 25 years later. Im so sorry that happened to you. Do what you need to do to protect yourself and your family.

March 22, 2010
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i dont know wats happenin its like i know hes done wrong,but the feelins ive got for him wont go away.hes constabtly on my mind 24/7 i am undergoin councellin startin this week. i know i said wrong an horrible things but im just hurtin the pain is unreal.

March 22, 2010
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Don't talk to himm until you talk to your councellor. Would you leave your children alone with this man? Then don't expose yourself either.

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March 22, 2010
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I agree. Talk to the counselor and stay away from him. Feeling like talking to him and talking him are two different things.

March 22, 2010
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Please Please Please do not think this is your fault. I too have been in verbal and a physical abusive relationship. It is not you and DO NOT go back. Get support now with a group or counsler and your best friends who care for you and only you. You do not need anything like that in your life and you deserve better and believe that you are better

March 22, 2010
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Thank you MsMissy. None can tell the story better than one who has been there.

Bitsy

March 23, 2010
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oh I have been there. I have been there too many times and for too long. An abuser is insecure and takes week people and uses them to their advantage. It is very easy to see yourself as weak and that it is your fault and then they talk you in to coming back. DO NOT do that. Stay strong and if you need more support keep coming back to the site when you think of him or going back to him. Thinking of you and placing you in my heart for your recovery

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