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I walked out??????
October 2, 2008
6:07 pm
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kingston
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I iam 21 and I have been engaged to a women for 2 year who is 36. Age has never ben a issue. but we fight and way stressed out. we have broke up befor and after 2 weeks got back together 10 months later were split again we have a beautiful girl who is 16 months old and another baby on the way. a boy. but I ended up leaving im so tired tired of fighting and beign angry or sad hurt ect. what did I do. im so confused. was I right? did I walk out on my kids for my own selfish need. I love my girl but I can't stand fighting and being unhappy anylonger with my girlfriend/fiancee. we do I began. 3 know this is hard to read abd jumps around but I have so much on my mind I can't focus. please give me so light.

October 2, 2008
7:32 pm
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Hi Kingston!

First just take a deep breathe. It will be okay.

Second just try and take this one moment at a time. Try and collect your thoughts. I am sure they are all over the place right now but try and just focus on one thought at a time.

I think you would have never left if you knew the situation was just too much for you take any longer.

What were you both fighting about so much.

Just keep posting it really helps to get it all out

October 2, 2008
9:37 pm
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kingston,

Trust, honesty and communication.

Three big ole words!

Can really make/break a marriage/relationship IMO.

Start there and see what develops.

You HAVE to communicate first off - to be sure.

Be open.

Be vulnerable.

For you know what - with really open and honest communication just naturally lends itself to....is gut natural honesty.

And- in time - that same honesty eventually lends itself to the actual bedrock of relationships.....trust.

It's a process - to be sure.

But if you are BOTH committed to going the course - ain't nothing more solid than that IMO.

You HAVE to have something solid in which to base your relationship upon.

All starts with being open, being vulnerable, being honest, being respectful, being both commited to working towards the same goals and taking the time to actually hashing it out as to exactly all as to what that would actually entail.

If you truly love each other - then - IMO - you are 66% there already.

Just have to tie up the other 33% 'loose ends."

Have to both agree that you are both looking in the same direction for the future.

My humble 2 cents.

October 3, 2008
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Before walking out all together, I would suggest couple counseling. May I ask what most of your arguments are about? If you don't mind sharing, that is. Keep posting and all the best to you!

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