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I thought things were better but......their not
May 27, 2006
6:45 pm
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My relationship with my boyfriend has always been a bad one, but ever since we got back together after him "needing space", things have been better. I was devastated while we were broken up, and he knows that, which I think puts me in a very bad, vulnerable position. I really thought things were better, but his abusive language, and disrespectful attitude is back lately. I have no control over his behavior, and that frustrating in itself. I feel so low and needy and I hate being like that, but I cant help it. We plan on maybe moving in 2gether at the end of the year, but deep inside I know its just my way of feeling "secure". I know its a bad idea, and I know this relationship is, too. How can I become less insecure & needy, of this monster who doesnt appreciate how great I am to him?

May 27, 2006
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Run now before moving in. He'll never appreciate you, and believe me he'll "need space" again. After 17 yrs of marriage to a similar male, he "needs space" again--It Sucks!!!

May 27, 2006
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Start a journal of the things you would like to feel, such as freedom, peace, serenity, free of anxiety.

Get this all on paper and keep reading it. Visualize yourself in a place where you can receive these things, such as the mountains, a lake or rolling meadows.

Your desire for these things will continue to grow and grow as you keep reading it and adding to it, to the point where you will want to make a move in achieving these things. You will be setting new goals.

Once you can start to focus on what you want in life, you will come to appreciate those things, and will look back someday, and wonder how you went so long without it. You'll start to clearly see the things you will NOT miss, and be GLAD to be rid of, such as control, stress, obsession, grief, despair, insecurity...ect...

Anyway, this is just a suggestion. We all do things in our own ways to cope, and I'm glad I have a place to come and exchange ideas with others.


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