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I thought it was a break...
September 7, 2006
12:05 am
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chetts
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we started dating about 6 months ago. Both of us recovering alcoholics...codep history.Things started getting weird. So WE decided to take a break.Its been 2 weeks. Staying away from the phone so hard. He agreed to wait to hear from me... thurs he forwards an email. I dont reply. Sunday he calls and we talk for an hour.Now I'm insane. Hearing his voice was the last thing I needed.Its like when you quit smoking, get thru the worst part and then have one. Its all over. I have no idea how to stay away... i know I need some space, but the pull is so strong. Damn this sucks!!!

September 7, 2006
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Hi. Give it more time. The pull will fade. Takes awhile. Takes long time but it happens.

September 7, 2006
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did you "both" want to take a break, then see how things went after a while, or did YOU choose to have the relationship over??

You mentioned you both talked for an hour on Sunday, I am sure that brought back alot of feelings. But if you truely want to not be in a relationship with him, no contact is the best, yes it hurts for a while, but each day you get thru it is one step further for you.

September 7, 2006
11:01 pm
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Today has been tough. Emails...i'm back in. Yeah, we both wanted this break. Since we began seeing each other, both our programs took a back seat. We could see the negative effects on us as we put more time into the relationship than our own stuff. its funny how you put down drugs &alcohol,do some work,take some time to figure some stuff out. you think its safe to date and bamm! Iforgot i'm coda. what really sucks is he truely is in the same place as I am. whats worse is we both are really clear on where we are. Less like a relationship & more like an addiction. at least thats how it feels right now. this thing is going to have to play itself out. Its much easier to end these things when the police & restraining orders are envolved. This feels just plain sad.

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