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I SO don 't get this
September 5, 2006
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I found this......wondering if anyone would mind taking a stab at "interpreting" it for me.......

THE BROKEN HEART

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That internal rending called the Broken Heart,
is the especial lot of all sensitive people.
No such person lives long in this world
before he has his heart broken.
And as live goes on the heart gets sundered
into smaller and ever smaller pieces.

However,
These people also come to know without any question,
that the important thing is to let the world break the human heart.

For one thing, there is room in the broken heart and only there,
For all the sorrows of the world.

The broken heart and only it,
Is curative, redemptive, of the wasteland around.

Moreover,
it is the very raw material necessary
for a strange and important alchemy
which has been described in the words…

"Your sorrow will be turned into Joy".

September 5, 2006
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hi brynnie,
I will take a stab at it...

I think it means... you need to open yourself up to let your heart be broken for it is truly the only way to allow yourself to really love and risk loving. Through this, we develop compassion and the ability to understand and deal with the sorrows in the world, but also see the hope in tomorrow.

September 5, 2006
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"For one thing, there is room in the broken heart and only there, For all the sorrows of the world." - Only those who suffer understand suffering of others and can empathize.

"Your sorrow will be turned into Joy" - perhaps sorrow, after the healing, makes a path for joy and makes it possible to truly enjoy happiness.

September 5, 2006
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Read this posting this am…the last sentence has stuck with me through-out the day… “Your sorrow will be turned into Joy” regarding the “The Broken Heart.” Thank you for posting it. This is more than likely WAY OFF base but thought I’d share what I got out of it….

How I related to this was once upon a time I had very strong feelings for someone in which the relationship abruptly ended- (felt at that time my heart was broke or like I’ve said *ripped out of me*). In the many days that followed I had the hardest time letting this person go in my mind…I was filled with so much pain/confusion.

However…. it wasn’t until I actually put myself out to this person-by being completely truthful in what I had felt/was feeling about them- {was basically taking the risk of once again feeling a fresh round of the pain and really GETTING *my heart broke*… and I knew this full well beforehand…}. It was in doing what I did that the *actual breaking of my heart* occurred {I’ve referred to it as being defeated-thats what it felt like}. What ended up happening was at first I felt a deep-deep sadness within but soon after (like within hours/ a day at the most) that I was then released from what I had been feeling for days (the sorrow/pain) and it was replaced with a complete joy. One of the strangest things that has ever happened to me… can't explain it either other than that I was willing to take a risk of having *a broken heart* but with the hopeful outcome that I'd be released from my pain as well as perhaps my pain would end up being a blessing onto someone.

September 5, 2006
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How strange & wonderful, lovinglife! I'll think about that ...

For me, it might be about breaking OPEN one's heart ... so as to let others in; so we can suffer & rejoice empathetically with them, feeling their joy redoubled in us too by creative emotional imagination.

They say a pain shared is a pain halved: whereas a joy shared is a joy doubled.

P'raps our hearts can be so intact - so closed up to protect ourselves from hurt - that they shrivel up (metaphorically) and our capacities to feel & to experience Love shrink away. Perhaps we need sometimes to BREAK them OPEN to let Life & Love stream in & out.

For me, a closed-up heart is a waste of wonderful human potential for lovely, inspiring, nurturing emotions and growth of happiness; and this only happens IN RELATIONSHIPS with others.

It reminds me of pictures of "the sacred heart", and of the famous pre-Raphaelite painting of "the Light of the World" (namely, Love,) knocking on the closed door of the heart.

Sorry to ramble. I might be way wrong. Love anyway - Gazelle.

September 5, 2006
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Gazelle~ ok you went deep- Awesome...liked what you had to say...

"P'raps our hearts can be so intact - so closed up to protect ourselves from hurt... For me, thats right where my initial problem began with- I kept my heart so protected during the relationship- didn't want to get hurt... so much so that I was unable to FEEL my true feelings which left me unable to SHARE with this person what my true feelings. This person had stated at the end that... I never let them in.

BUT

"Perhaps we need sometimes to BREAK them OPEN to let Life & Love stream in & out." It was in doing this... that I then felt a release. Would have been nice if I had done that along though : ).

ALSO

My lesson learned was exactly what you said..."closed-up heart is a waste of wonderful human potential for lovely, inspiring, nurturing emotions and growth of happiness". I learned a very painful lesson out of my experience.

September 5, 2006
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Awww (((((Lovinglife))))) You write so beautifully.
I was pouring my own feelings into all that too, since my ex-bf suffered from precisely what you describe. He never let me in, and we both suffered because although he said I had helped him more than anyone ever had to open up, he still just couldn't do it. We split a year ago now, & I still love him & wish him well ... but I can't go back into the aching pain & frustration of never quite getting HIM (even when making love.)

No amount of gentle patience & encouragement helped, nor of my openness enabling his. He just got upset & raged ... and eventually got abusive (admitting after each time that his anger wasn' at me, but at himself. Tragic. But I couldn't take any more bullying & esp violence. He did realise & sadly acknowledge all this.) Perhaps his heart is now broken open, so there is an entry-point for love & hope for his future.

If only he could gain the wonderful self-knowledge you show - or any of your beautiful humility.

Wish I could find a man capable of it too, leaving his ego at the door of our private times of longed-for Closeness & communion... Oh, sigh! Life can be SO lonely without true intimacy, can't it?!

Here are many blessings to us all in our future lives of more intimate emotional Connectedness. And Love.

Love, Gazelle.

September 5, 2006
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I thought about it so many times - that I am afraid that after my so painful experience my heart will forever "shrink" trying to protect itself from further pain and that I will become just like the person who caused my pain - hurting, longing for love, but unable to love, and that I have to be healed enough to be brave enough to risk another pain and to be able to open my heart to love someone else. So good to hear my thoughts repeated.

lovinglife ~ to actually hear from that person that you never let them in...what a loss...I am so sorry for your pain.

September 5, 2006
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Gazelle~ I’m feeling for your exB right now : ) or should it be a : (
…though I never raged or became abusive (well maybe a little with my parting comments- out of hurt) I just wasn’t able to really open up- which had to do more with my own self image/self esteem than having been hurt in past loves. I just couldn’t allow my *real self* to show or share *my real feelings* because of the fear I’d be rejected- and what happened ultimately in the end... "A person will lead themselves to their greatest fears." I thought during the relationship it had to do with having my heart broke so I needed to protect it {why I was unable to open up} but realize now- it was simply because of the fear of rejection.

Regarding your statement: "Perhaps his heart is now broken open, so there is an entry-point for love & hope for his future." I truly hope that in my experience this will be the case for me (as well as for your exB)…. Though… like Matteo stated…in the back of my mind there are the thoughts…. “that I am afraid that after my so painful experience my heart will forever "shrink" trying to protect itself from further pain.” Again, hoping that not to be the case for me or Matteo (!)- one of the reasons (after the fact) I felt so led to share with him what I had felt was because it made it real for me- what *my truth* really was- that even knowing more than likely it was far too late- I had to take the chance of having my heart *just broken*-and that was exactly what happened… but oddly it released me from my pain…then I felt the sorrow/sadness- then it was the joy- weird, weird, weird.

And Matteo~ WOW- what a powerful truth filled statement… “hurting, longing for love, but unable to love”…. how many of US can relate to that??? And how many exN’s, exH’s, exB’s exF’s etc can relate to that as well???

Oh and thanks I had one more crying mess when I read “to actually hear from that person that you never let them in...what a loss...” : )…. laughing now as I thought I was done with the tears (!)…. But today I truly am at peace with the whole thing…as a believer that everything has its reasons for happening- that this relationship unfolded just the way it was meant to be. I sure learned a lot out of it (would have never had it not been for this website though). Hopefully I- (we all} can move on to somday finding that honest & real love I (we)long for to freely give & receive… and for me, in the meantime think I'll be more open in taking the risks that my heart just may be broken while I stand up to my fear of rejection!!

September 5, 2006
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"stand up to my fear of rejection" This is all what it takes. I will remember this statement when I will meet my future love.

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