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I need your advice........
August 3, 2001
4:38 pm
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alycat
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I can't seem to stop argueing with my H over money. I work full-time and don't earn a lot. He does not work but recieves $500 a month in ssi. He nit pics me on every dollar I spend (which is extreemly little) and I don't feel it is his place to tell me anything since he does not contribute more-which he can if he tries or wants to. Basically I am on him for not working and being a better provider and he is on me for every penny. So we decided to split the money in half. He pays his half I pay mine. I am bitter to even have to do this. What do you think?

August 3, 2001
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Personally, I think it is very important to maintain financial independence...married or not. Maybe you should each have your own savings/checking accounts. Then, decide on what luxuries, payments, etc. should be JOINT payments. Then, set up a separate account where you can each donate a portion of your incomes. That way you can spend freely and not feel guilty...or feel the need to hound each other over every little penny. Things such as the house payment, children's needs, etc. can be looked upon as joint payment responsibilities.

Besides, if this marriage were to end tomorrow, you'd want your own private stash, wouldn't you? I'm not saying it would ever come to that, but wouldn't you rather maintain a certain amount of financial stability for yourself in the event that could happen? Always have a backup plan, I say!

August 3, 2001
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My life lesson, has been to maintain my financial independence, so listen up.

August 6, 2001
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Sorry he's on disability but waaaahhhh.

Keep a list of what is spenet....be frugal and if all you can save is a dollar a week...so be it...

Save up and get on out unless he quits grippeing.

August 6, 2001
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i have a husband that is partially disabled but he continues to work. I have told him all i need for him to do is to take care of his personal things, such as his truck payment, meds, ins, and personal needs. I am trying to take care of the rest, mortage, utilities, phones, kids, food, ect. I am having a hard time doing that but i do try my best. sometimes he asks my why we are behind and i tell him he doesnt want to know. I say if it is your money he doesnt need to worry about how much money you spend or how and when the bills are paid just as long as they are paid.

Good luck dear
lisa

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