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I need to get away and would like some ideas
June 4, 2007
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I am 51 yrs. old and need to get away from my h and family. I have no one around here that I would want to go on a trip with and yet I don't know if I could even sleep somewhere by myself. I am off for the summer and just need a change of scenery. I have been online looking and looking at things from women's retreats and trips, to rental cabins near lakes and beaches. So many things are too costly. Normally by now, I would have given up and not think I am worth it. I am trying to not repeat this behavior. I am just frustrated and thought maybe someone might have ideas that I haven't thought of. I am open here, but still not sure about doing something alone. I guess I just want to give myself a chance...

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June 4, 2007
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gg...I too, am off in the summer. After a week, my two teenagers are driving me insane, and I feel like I need to get away too.

Are there any co-workers who might want to split the cost of a weekend away with you? I don't know what part of the country you are in, but I'm sure some internet searching might turn something up in your price range.

Churches sometimes offer retreats for weekends, and some 3-4 day trips are offered through travel agents. Nothing extravagant...but a short getaway. Visiting relatives or friends out of town might be an option, too. I'm lucky enough to have 3 sisters in all different parts of the U.S.

Good luck!

June 4, 2007
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if you have a passport my mom said there are always pretty low priced nice cruises only a couple of days long and they are a lot of fun. She told me I need to consider taking my girls on one. And if she thinks i can afford it being a single mom with kids who makes less than a teacher in our area does it shouldnt be that bad in price. Also i know she wouldnt send me to do that if it was not nice

June 5, 2007
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Thanks ready and thumkin for your input. I will do more research...

June 5, 2007
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I dunno GG but I hear MN is a great place to get away to. Esp if you like shopping with that Mall of America thing they have there ; )

June 5, 2007
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gg...I don't know where you live but you could book yourself on the Amtrak and go as far as you wish seeing the beautiful country. I don't think it would be that expensive and you can be on your own schedule. There are church summer camps. Would you be interested in a silent/meditation retreat? Here is a website to look up http://www.dhamma.org/
There are many places all over the world and payment is by donation at the end of the retreat. I am looking into going to one.
What do you enjoy doing? Find a getaway place that centers on your hobbies:). Good for you for keeping at it. You definitely so WORTH IT!

June 5, 2007
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Hi gg, Europe? in Italy there are several places where you can stay at the nunneries for almost no money, the only thing is that there are curfews. If you are interested I'll dig out the info.

Going alone is a lot of fun, and it can be hard too. Last year I took a 3 month trip around Europe in the thick of winter, by myself. I got to meet a ton of people and I had a lot of time by myself too. I like my own company and I know it's everyone's cup of tea. And maybe 3 months is not feasible, so also the suggestion of a cruise, even a 1 week is absolutely great. There are fashion cruises, or health/fitness/mediation cruises, or just cruises. I find cruising so relaxing and it's no longer veyr expensive.

What would yo ulike to do? Maybe one of those active vacations? or a yoga retreat? or just checking in at a local hotel and being a tourist in your own town??? (w/o telling anyone your whereabouts so you are not called every 5 minutes w/ questions, ;-)??

those few days can be such a gift to yourself AND those around you. I hope you find out somtheing that suits you, and I'm sure you are great company (to yourself and others...)

June 5, 2007
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i meant: I know [travelling alone] is NOT everyone's cup of tea...

June 5, 2007
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In addition to all the wonderful tips and hints that have been suggested to you...I can't think of anything more. Europe can be pricey and quite far so let's look into something nearby. I would say a retreat for meditation or a spa somewhere in an inn in an isolated or mountain area far from big cities would be your best bet to relax, have massage, sauna, pool, manicure/pedicure etc. You may have it by yourself or invite a gf with whom you feel comfy.

My teacher once had a burnout and she went to a spa for 2 weeks and when she came back, she was a transformed person. She went to a very nice quiet place.

Shop around for those places b/c there are some which are more pricey than others.

GG~wishing you a very pleasant relaxing vacation!!! We codep folks really need to show love to ourselves more than anything else!!!

June 5, 2007
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gg,

I have felt this way too and did the most wonderful thing for myself. I drove to the nearest big city, which was indy for me, 2 hrs away, and booked a hotel with a spa and indoor pool. Then I spent the next 3 days doing what I wanted, when I wanted. I took taxi's to hot spots, I walked downtown to do some shopping, ate at nice restraunts, and stayed up late at the hotel bar listening to the live jazz band. Oh and I read a good book too.

It was awesome and the freedom I felt was so refreshing. I came back a better wife and much happier person. Its liberating. I hope you dont give up. You ARE worth it!

June 5, 2007
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gg, I have attended a couple of this guys workshops and found them to be very helpful. Maybe this or something like it would help you to regroup?

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June 5, 2007
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Thank you all for the wonderful variety of ideas. Late last night, I thought I had given up on the possibility of all of this, but now all of your ideas gave me some hope. I am still limited physically with my knee due to the surgery which limits some activities. The Amtrak idea really caught my eye and I would like to check into this. Now that Mall of America, LL, always wanted to go there and I have never been to MN either. I know I am not mentally or financially ready to go to Europe much less by myself, but I want to go there one day. Doubleloss, I am amazed that someone could take a trip like you did alone, that is so cool!

I live in southern Louisiana and my intent was to go somewhere different. Oh, my family doesn't know this at all!!!

June 5, 2007
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Hi GG,

Thanks for starting such a fun thread. I am enjoying all the ideas. I too need to get away for some R&R!

Doubleloss,

Your trip to Europe sounded wonderful. Can you tell me how you found out about the nunneries or other low-cost accomodations?

Thanks!

Moon & Stars

June 5, 2007
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GG -

my aunt used to travel alot and she used to hook up with a bus tour company that used to take single people for bus trips...it was usually on a luxury smaller type touring bus...and they hit all kinds of historic places.

I don't want to seem like I am calling you "older" but most of the people on these tours were.

I think the name was Colette tours. My mom went on one and enjoyed it.

I also think the spa idea is great if you just want to relax.

Did you google "singles vacation ideas"? may give you some ideas.

I think the grand canyon would be magical...I have also seen the redwood forest and LOVE it.

I love the ocean, so for me, a magical week would be me at the seaside with some local shopping hot spots...but not a touristy type place.

Good luck with your quest - and BRAVO for stepping outside your comfort zone!

June 5, 2007
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Well rising, haven't actually stepped out, trying to here. It just seems that everything I would like to do is not possible. I will check into the single vacation ideas...ty

June 5, 2007
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GG - well, if you need to - take baby steps.

Try out a night at a local "posh" hotel with nice clean rooms, a comfy bed, and a hot tub or jacuzzi and fire place in the room.

See how it feels to treat yourself for one night.

BABY STEPS...if it works...then try for a little further from home.

IF it doesn't feel good, you won't be so far away that you can't get back and it won't be a total waste of cash.

Perhaps you can find something near some fun shopping outlets or something....or a museum you would like to visit.

Baby steps...that gives you the best chance of success.

Plus, if the kids are worried "where mom will be", you can assure them you will be close by in case anything happens....that gives them some sense of security too...giving you peace of mind also.

Don't tell them WHERE...just take your cell and assure them you are only a call away.

PS - the marriot has what is called the "heavenly bed"...it is WONDERFUL...and worth the overnight visit.

I stayed at a local courtyard marriot and they had a jacuzzi room for $150 for the night...some even include breakfast buffet. Other places have fireplaces too.

Don't go big if you are too nervous.

June 5, 2007
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GG,

Glad to hear you are doing something for yourself. You deserve it.

Have you considered staying in a hostel to help defray the costs?

Here is an article on it http://www.hostels.com/en/newt.....lling.html

I know you are too young for it now, but once you are 55 you can go on elderhostels. Many people think it is more for the retired folk... but lots of working people enjoy them as a vacation. They have trips based on both location and interest. I have a friend who goes on these all the time and every trip she takes, she meets new friends. http://www.hostels.com/en/newt.....lling.html

Another out there option would be a volunteer vacation. If you are intersted, let me know what your interests are and I will look for some of it. I know of a lot of this type of thing with conservation... but I am sure it also involves other groups too.

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