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I need some help plz!!!!!!!! I don't know what to do!!!!
January 25, 2005
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AngelBaby
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I don't know how much longer I can do this. I wrote a thread and only got advice from one person. And I really need help on this. None of my friends seem to to be able to help me on this. Well you see I have a g/f and a b/f and nethier one likes the other. So that's one problem but my major problem is that when ever something is wrong with my g/f she takes it out on me not as much lately according to her but it is still to many times for comfort. I don't like it cuz when she takes it out on me I usually get mad too and it doesn't help any thing. But what I want to know is if there is somw thing that I personally can do to try to help some how. I can't think of any thing to do that will help any. Any advice wouldf be apreciated very much....... Thanks
~AngelBaby~

January 25, 2005
7:15 pm
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sounds like your friend has some issues, have you tried talking to her? if that doesn't work you may have to set some bondaries and find other friends as well, yuo shouldn't allow your friend to verbally abuse you. i am unsure what the circumstances are so it is hard to say but no matter what the case is if she is a true friend you should be able to talk to her.

January 25, 2005
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hi Angel....have you decided which person "gf" or "bf" you'd rather be with...cuz maybe you are building up a chaotic lifestyle like this...Are you willing to choose one over the other...or maybe at least let the "other" know exactly what you are doing, and see if they can "accept" this??? good luck hon!

January 25, 2005
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First off, and forgive my presumption if this is not the case, but anytime there is a sexual-romantic relationship between three people there will always be an imbalance.

Just as three planets cannot exist in a gravitational dynamic three people cannot exist in a long-term sexual relationship. It's simply impossible. Furthermore it is always self-destructive and sometimes dangerous in its rather morbid implications.

Have you ever had to make up your mind?

Pick up on one and leave the other behind?

It's often not easy and it's not always kind.

Have you ever had to make up your mind?

I would suggest you choose, and if you have needs, sexually, that exist as a result of bisexuality, that you choose someone who is willing to share you and that that person be invited to attend your outside "casual" acquaintences.

The abuse you are contending with may be the result of the imbalance you are contending with.

January 25, 2005
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AngelBaby,

As long as you are honest, honorable and keep your agreements, then you can have as many boyfriends and girlfriends as you damn well please. More than one is very very tricky, but you have a right to love who you love.

So on to advice...

A good rule is "Only one person crazy at a time." IF you see your girlfriend is getting mad at you unfairly, tell her...hey dont be mad at me. Or say, "Hey, I'll just come back when you are in a better mood."

In other words, try to stay cool and not get sucked into stupid, pointless arguments. Try taking "time-outs" when she starts getting mad. Just say "Time out." It's worth a try.

January 25, 2005
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hi, one thing i've learned over the years is not to take abuse from anyone.set your boundries and dont let anyone step over the line. be assertive and true to yourself.

January 26, 2005
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Everyone thanks for the advice with this. Slowbutsure it's not that I take the abuse it's the fact that I keep telling her that she is doing it and she promises she'll change but she just keeps on doing it.
Worried_Dad thanks the only problem with the whole "one crazy at a time" is that there are 3 crazys right now. but I'll sure try the "time-out" thing thanks.
Phalic I have made up my mind once but then me and ny g/f took time and I told her if we did I would probly end up running back to my b/f. And I did and now my life is now messed up more than ever. And your presumtion was right my the way.
Camer thanks and I choose once but I end up back in the same spot as I started. I just don't think that I could chance my b/f hurting himself if I broke up with him and the same for my g/f. She has already said she'll either be a junkie or an achoholic and I don't want that to happen because I love her and probly always will. I love my b/f the same I don't want any thing to happen to either one.
November it's not that she verbally abuses me it's she won't talk to me, ignores me or smarts off when Ialk to her when I try to talk to her when she is mad. And I do tell her when she does it and she'll do the best she can and it helps some but it starts up again most of the time.

January 26, 2005
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I would suggest, either having only one relationship at a time or finding partners that are ok with you having more then 1 partner at a time.Otherwise you're going to always be in this turmoil.good luck.

January 26, 2005
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Thanks grama thant will probly help alot.

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