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I need some encouragement!
October 31, 2001
12:14 pm
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Starbaby
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HI everyone! I am new to this board and from reading other posts, it sounds like a great group of people.
I just need a little encouragement today...I am in the process of ending a relationship with the father of my child. (we are not married) It is very unhealthy and I'm now learning that I am a co-dependent. I say that I am in the PROCESS of ending it because I have broken up with him so many times before, but always seem to go back, even though I know how bad it is. He is so manipulative and I don't want my daughter to grow up with him as a male role model. So last night, I ended it AGAIN and am now determined to make it last. I need some support because I'm starting to feel the urge to call him...
This doesn't make sense! He has relapsed on drugs, lies, steals and doesn't help support my daughter...I'm so frustrated that I can't just move on and not look back!
Thanks for any advice...

October 31, 2001
12:23 pm
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No advice at this point, except stick to your guns. That seems to be more than enough for your plate at present.

We either "mean" what we say or we don't. So - Do you or Don't you? The question is to you, and needs to be answered to yourself, not to me or anyone else.

IF you don't want this for you or your daughter - you will follow through. If you don't follow through then everything is a lie that you say about wanting this and that. What we want - is what we do, not what we say. Plain and simple.

Your feelings will be all over the place but I think it's time to not be whimpy here. You may think the pretty red truck that's coming at you 90 mph looks real pretty and may remind you of the red little truck you played with as a kid, but does that mean you won't jump out of the way of harm - or will you stand there and think on how cute it is?

You can't do both. One will destroy you and one will deliver you. So make up your mind here and if you go back to him then you want this for you and your child. No more lying - "to you".

Your No needs to mean No - once and for all. So, show me what you got. Lock and Load.

October 31, 2001
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you go girl, you have taken the first and second step. Now just make sure you do not have contact, please do not let him know where you are at, and if possible, start getting some legal stuff in order. Keep busy keep focused, and be good to you and baby. Ladeska is right, if you go back, its this, and more of this, and a life of this, then your daughter lives it. so, hold on tight be firm, and honey don't even look back.

November 1, 2001
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Girl as long as you know whats right for your daugther ,no one really knows what your going through besides you . But if I were you I wouldn't stay with him . You don't have to stay with him just cause he's the daughter of your child he still can be in your life by your daughter . do whats right for her stop thinking about your self , you can do it .Stay stronge and keep all faith alive from above.

November 1, 2001
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Starbaby:

Yes you need to move on i am in the same position you are except i am married to mine and I need to leave him and move on we deserve better for ourselves and your deserve for yourself and your child. There are alot of good people out there and alot of them are on this thread. Look up for your strength, god listens also.

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