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I need some advice!
April 8, 2000
11:16 pm
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Lore03
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My husband cheated on me about 2 years ago and now has a child with this girl that he cheated on me with. He wants to be a part of the baby's life but not the mothers. He wants us to raise the baby, but I really don't think I can, because of all the pain it has caused me. Also, we haven't had sex in about 5 months and that really worries me. He says it's because he feels bad about what he did to me, but I don't know if I can believe him. He said, just give it some time and things will get back to normal. He is seeking counseling and so am I, but I don't see any improvement in our lives. What should I do?

April 9, 2000
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You post sounds like the "other side of a story" we have read here before.

1) Improvement takes time..if he is worth keeping make and honest effort to repair your relationship. Trust will take a very long time to rebuild.

2) I see it as positive that he wants to be part of the babies life.. .But..unless you can be honestly loving to this child don't even think about raising it. I think it is really blind of him to expect you to raise a child that he cheated on you to get. Women take more care of "the children" then men do..so you in essence would have more responsibility for THIS INNOCENT CHILD then he does. Please don't blame this baby for your husbands inabibility to keep his pants on.

3. Are you in any counseling together?
That might help too.

How many children do the two of you have?

What was your relationship like BEFORE his affair?

Is this marriage worth saving to you?

Thinking of you.

April 24, 2000
5:57 pm
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Well were do i start. I met this girl off of the net and we begain to chat and after we gotten to know each other a bit more. She then told me that she had been raped 4 years ago and also that her boyfriend commited sucided and she's contemplated sucide herself. Since then we have spoken on the phone and she seems to think that nobody would care and she is to scared to tell anybody else. I despretly need info to help the current suitation

April 24, 2000
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Davori...you need to "start a new thread" with this one!!! Sounds important..sould have it's own heading!

You need to urge your friend to all a hot line, seek a counselor etc. She can find someone who would keep the whole thing confidential.

You do what you can to help her get help but beware of feeling "responsible" for her. Yes you want the best for her but final decisions will be hers. Hotlines are anonymous and some have good cousnelors.

Make it easy for her to find help.

she has a cmpaossionatre phone friend in you!!

Refer her to this site!!

April 26, 2000
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Lore03, I am going through the same thing, except he got the girl pregnant ,we broke up, he was with her for about 1 year, and with me off and on, now he left her, we still see each other but he does not want to commit, he wants to see other people. What are you doing to help you deal with this, maybe you can give me some advice, I can not forget the things that he has done to me, I really hate him!!!

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