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I need some advice..PLEASE
September 16, 2006
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my wife and I are on again after putting our divorce on hold for now. Everything was going fine until she got alL upset about what my family thinks of her. What does my family thoughts of her have such an impact on her. No one has ever done anything or said anything bad about her. only love her unconditionally. When she gets to feeling this way she makes me feel like she doesnt want to be with me..I know im codep. But I wonder why she acts this way??
ANY HELP WILL BE HELPFUL..THANK YOU!!

September 17, 2006
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Hi piano

Your family's thoughts have a large impact on her kuz you are so much a part of them- the old blood is thicker than water thinking.

I'm confused about your post- they speak only good things of her and she is upset about that?

free

September 17, 2006
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FREE

Come back to my GG threads. PLEASE!

We want you.

Hugs, P&L

September 17, 2006
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Hi Piano,

Like Free, I'm a bit confused as well.

You mentioned that she is upset about what they think of her?

What does she think they think of her?

Lolli

September 17, 2006
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Does she have low self esteem or just an extremely sensitive person? I do and I always end up feeling bad if I know people are talking about me or saying things about me.I take it too personal. Or is it that she is controlling and using emotions to prevent or stall something that is inevitable, like the divorce or your relationship. Who wants the divorce, you or her? I guess I need more information. If you don't want the divorce, maybe you are caring TOO much for her and trying to handle all her situations when she should be. Maybe she is depending on you to much and she is codep also. I don't know since you did not say too much.

September 19, 2006
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Hey piano, do you feel like you are always having to walk on eggshells around her? Just a thought, but could she be struggling with a personality disorder? From the little that you have shared, a couple of things sounded like borderline personality disorder. Here is a site that can tell you more about it. http://www.bpdcentral.com Look under 'Support groups' ...'Message boards' and you can read a few stories from others that may be dealing with the same thing. It also has the characteristics of bpd. If none of it applies then consider yourself blessed.

September 19, 2006
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Is she using the fact that she thinks your family think ill of her not to return to you?

Is that her excuse?

She obviously thinks pretty badly of herself - and that's a case for therapy, not offloading blame for her inability to make a decision.

With love - and wishing I could take my own advice - Wazz.

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