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i need help, but can't afford therapy
April 19, 2001
12:51 am
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hi, um im going to be 20 years old and i have been dealing with alot of personal issues for a long time and its just getting harder to deal with them. when i was 5 years old i was molested by my male babysitter, when i was 15 i was attacked and sexually assulted by a stranger and when i was 17 my homecoming date attempted to rape me. i have never had a boyfriend, but i have had sex 2. i lost my virginity to a close guy friend who i thought i could trust this past year and i got attached to him and he told me he wasn't interested in me more than being physical. then i met this guy who claimed to be interested in me and i fell for him and he used me for sex, twice, then thru me aside and told me that sex is meaningless, does that make me meaningless? then theres my dad who has nothing ever positive to say to me and is never proud of the little accomplishments that mean alot to me, hes always looking on the down side and a way to bring me down. growing up i was very chubby and was the subject of ridicule in school, i tried to kill myself many times, too many times to count. it seemd i was worthless, just this big fat girl who was dumb and good for only sex. now that i have lost weight, it seems like im only dumb and good for sex, but im still constantly dieting. I never feel good enough, smart enough or anything, theres so much to this that i can't even get it all typed out, i just really want to get some help becuz im tired of feeling how i do, but i can't help but feel like this. theres this guy who wants to date me but my insecurities bother him and i have been told this by many other potential dates, im too self critical and self loathing and just miserable. i really really want help, i know i need it, i have done the self help tapes, read books, and i think im ready for therapy, the problem is i have no insurance and im paying and saving for college and i want to get ride of my self-esteem issues and not trusting guys and jeopordizing potentional healthy relatiponships with my inescurities and baggage, i just don't know what to do, i want to live a normal healthy life and not worry about being hurt and raped and that life is just full of disapointments and pain. i want to enjoy life, but i can't im miserable and i just wish i cold get help, does anybody know what i can do?

April 19, 2001
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there is free therapy availble
or for little cost too

im sorry for that all that to hapen to you.

lets see ... find out from profesniall therapists if they know of any agencies who give low cost counseling. i tried it once, it was free for me and that counselor was nice.

some are working for licensing and then the angencies arrange for them to get experience and u get cheap treatment too. and its not that they dont know what theyre doing.
its worth a try definitely.
g'luck to u

April 19, 2001
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Call the social services department for your area, call the local colleges, call the local hospital. There is help, and you could use some.Be persistant, you are worth it.b

April 19, 2001
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If you are in college or community college you can receive counseling for free in most places.

Otherwise, there is internet stuff (not as good as face to face) and some great books to read.

Heck, I'm a psyc major and i know plenty of other psych majors who are in the field because they wanted to uncerstand their own issues.

Two books, recommend them to everyone seeking more insight and self-knowledge:

"Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl

"Toward a Psychology of Being" by Abraham Maslow

New book of interest:

"The Legacy of Luna" by Julia Butterfly Hill. It's not about psych so much as taking action against what is unjust for yourself and for others.

April 20, 2001
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I am a Master's of Counseling student with lots of experience counseling at a local domestic violence shelter. I would be happy to help you if you can't find anyone to meet with you face to face. Please feel free to e-mail me at [email protected].

An area women's shelter might be a very good place for you to find free or low-cost counseling, or a referral to an agency that might be able to help you. However I also understand that sometimes it's hard to find the energy to engage in a search like this when we are battling each morning just to get up and face the day. Please don't hesitate to contact me if you need to.

Sincerely,

Mal

April 22, 2001
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thatdog,

Jesus said "Come unto me all ye who are weary and heavy laden and I'll give you rest." I'm going to pray for you. You've been through a lot of pain in your past and what you must do, is hold to God's had even when your load seems the hardest to bear. It will be all right, I know u can't see it right now, but take it from someone who has been through the storm. I didn't develop all of this faith overnight. I am a male and was sexually assaulted by three other males almost 9 years ago, I was mistreated by classmates and many other people. After that, I was just distrustful of people all together. In fact, I even came to the point where I wanted to take my own life.But then, Jesus came along and slowly I was mended. I haven't completely healed, but I'm doing much better. Therefore, I can tell you that it will be all right. Deliverance is coming, you just hold on and be strong and as Donnie McClurkin said "After you've done all you can, you just stand." If you would ever like to talk, e-mail me at [email protected] and I will definitely help you. Please e-mail me because I really feel your pain and understand and I want to help but if you remember nothing else, remember that it will be all right because the Lord is your shepherd and because of that you have all you need.

God bless U,

PG Lova

April 23, 2001
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Dear Thatdog,

I hope you are doing alright. I have been checking posts looking for you as I am concerned for your wellbeing. I hope you are hanging in there and taking care of yourself!

Mal

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