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I need encouragement!
January 11, 2001
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Jaskid
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I have not been here in a while because I guess I have been in another one of my bad depressions...anyway I am having my fifth baby in 2 weeks and I am scared. I am not going to want to come home from the hospital because I just don't think I have the strength to deal with the new baby, the other kids....housework....pain....no sleep...fear that my depression will get worse....the list is long. Could someone give me a few words of encouragement, maybe it will help me, thanks,

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January 11, 2001
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Hey Jaskid you are only entitled to a nap, not a breakdown.
Is there some way that you can make a plan to get some help? Ship the kids off to friends, for 2 weeks, I am sure other mom's would understand! Is there any way you could hire help? Family? Got to be a way just has to be. First maybe you could talk the doctor into letting you stay in the hospital as long as insurance will pay, give you a few more hours of rest. I start to write some thing, and get this image of you being all 9 months worth,4 kids tearing up the house, dishes on the stove and sink, laundry everywhere, and realize that there is no way you can get comfortable, or relax, maybe lock the bathroom door. Its so hard, but all those things can wait. Play princess, the kids must want to help, and be a part, make lists for them, you need to turn your head around and focus on the miracle that you are about to receive. Pain, are you having a c-section? The only pain I really remember was the husband nagging for his marital rights, and that I am sure should raise a witch like chuckle out of you that could scare him into the next county. Find a good Erma Bombeck book to read you need to laugh, I know wear depends, common try to smile 🙂 It will never happen again right, and when your 80 you'll look back and laugh, so try right now. Focus on an easy time, and that things will go smooth, and your brain chemestry is backwards and that after the baby, no depression what so ever, just a burst of good ole serotonin, and sleep? What is that ?

January 11, 2001
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When I brought #4 home when ever ayone asked to hold him...sure!!!!!!

Housework? Only reason to worry is if it is dangerously dirty. Keep all small objects off the floor...and that's good enough.

For at least one month consider ONLY YOUR MENTAL and PHYSICAL HEALTH>

Take care of yo so you can care for others.

If the job isn't necessary for life..don't do it.

January 11, 2001
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When I brought #4 home when ever ayone asked to hold him...sure!!!!!!

Housework? Only reason to worry is if it is dangerously dirty. Keep all small objects off the floor...and that's good enough.

For at least one month consider ONLY YOUR MENTAL and PHYSICAL HEALTH>

Take care of yo so you can care for others.

If the job isn't necessary for life..don't do it.

January 12, 2001
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What about the church, if you belong???????????

January 22, 2001
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Jaskid,
we had 4 kids very quickly. there was not much time for ourselves. we made it! you can too. the kids have turned out very well. we also appealed to the older ones to be helpers with the younger ones. set priorities...what must be done to what should be done and then what could be done. also, dont think in terms of months and weeks, just think in terms of getting through each hour and each day. set short term goals that you can achieve so you can see some success and progress. also know that each of us feels inadequate at times but if we take life in small bites we will come out on top. YOU can do it Jaskid - i believe in you!

January 31, 2001
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I had 4 and believe me they bring their own rewards. It was a terrible struggle, their father was always away at work, money was short, no holidays etc, and I was very young. I really felt like you, I think if someone had offered to take the fourth home for good,I would have let them! However, we did get through it all and they are all grown adults now. I was brought up in a convent (actually I was expelled when I was 15, but that's another story) and the nuns always said to remember that children are only lent to you, and now that all the rooms are empty, I can see what they meant. Why bother with all the dusting etc, look after yourself and they will benifit. The nuns also used to say "show me the Mother and I will show you the family". It is important for your own development that you don't lose sight of who you are. and remember the influence you have on those kids, "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world" you have so much empowerment at your fingertips, give some of it back to yourself. I know you can do it, and you have lots of spiritual support here. good-luck.

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