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I need advice on one thing about my ex-2shy
April 1, 2007
10:21 am
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2shy
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My ex and I have each other on our yahoo messenger. Neither one of us has deleted each other from it. I am the one that installed the messenger on the laptop that I gave him. I taught him everything he knows about computers because he was completely computer illiterate.

My question is should I delete my name from his yahoo messenger. I know his password. I noticed that he didn't delete my name. I am not sure if he didn't delete it because he doesn't know how or he purposely didn't delete it. I am sure he knows how to make himself invisible but I noticed he was on the internet a couple of times this week. On Tuesday I made myself visible to him. Neither one of us contacted each other.

I am SO TEMPTED to delete myself from his yahoo messenger and I was going to delete his name from my messenger. I figure that neither one of us should know or care when either one of us is on the internet. I think it is another way for me to let him know that I am NEVER going to contact him.

Or....should I just delete his name from my messenger only and let him do whatever he wants with his messenger?

thanks

April 2, 2007
3:41 pm
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Um..... he's your ex. Why should you care whether he has your name or not. If you don't care, then delete his name from your yahoo messenger and be done with it.
Nappy!

April 2, 2007
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shy.

using his password to delete yourself is opening up a can of worms.

he'll know it, and try to contact you.

instead, make yourselff invisible to him...and be done with it...then, he can't know you are on.

whether or not he keeps your name on his list is his business.

the only thing you can control is what you show him...so be invisible, and he'll never know the difference.

if you go into his account, he'll know it....and it's just inviting trouble.

i guess this leads me to another question.

if you know his password, are you reading his emails too?

cuz if you are...stop...it doesn't allow you to move on...only stay stuck in the game.

April 2, 2007
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I totally agree with Rising. Why look for trouble. Drop all ties of him from your end. That should be enough.

Can't change them....can only change yourself.

April 2, 2007
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This one is easy.

I am a firm believer in respecting each other's privacy. Deleting your name from his site would be a violation of his privacy. You have no right to do that. Do what you have to do to get him off your site Hopefully, he will do the same. If not, there is nothing you can do about it.

If you believe in absolute "no contact", then you will not have a problem. The key word is RESPECT.

April 2, 2007
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This one is easy.

I am a firm believer in respecting each other's privacy. Deleting your name from his site would be a violation of his privacy. You have no right to do that. Do what you have to do to get him off your site Hopefully, he will do the same. If not, there is nothing you can do about it.

If you believe in absolute "no contact", then you will not have a problem. The key word is RESPECT.

April 2, 2007
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Thanks everyone,

I mentioned that my ex and I broke up a million times in the past. During a few of the previous breakups I actually changed his password. I would change it back to the original password once we got back together. I am the only one that would e-mail him. He thought that it was a computer glitch or something. It was very childish of me to do.

I guess I would get into my anger stage and that is when I would react like that. It is also because I bought him his laptop and taught him everything he knows about the internet.....and in return I feel like a fool for having loved him.

I will NOT change his password or delete my name from his messenger. I will RESPECT his privacy. I just feel angry at times. That is all.

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