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I need advice...in a bad bad place.
May 7, 2009
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Hi all. I did the worst thing last night, something I never thought I would do. I kissed someone else. I've been with my guy for 4 years and things are hard right now. To throw a wrench into things, I kissed a girl. I'm so confused and guilty and afraid my life is about to fall apart. Should I tell my boyfriend or spare him the hurt? I just don't think I can keep it from him. Help!
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May 7, 2009
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How do you feel about the girl. Was it just a oops or was it something you want. That is what u need to figure out.

If it was a oops maybe he will understand. Would you?

May 7, 2009
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OK This is just me, but how much alcohol or whatever was involved. It has been my experience that when I have had too much to drink and was feeling "unappreciated" is when I went looking for attention.

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May 7, 2009
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how do you think he would handle this?? would he be forgiving?? would you if the roles were reversed?

You have to find out "why" you did this, there must be something missing from your relationship for you to seek out someone else.

May 8, 2009
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I remember hearing at Al-anon that it wrong to tell another of your transgressions against them if it means hurting them.
It's actually considered a selfish thing to do they'd claimed.
If your feel the need to get it off of your chest perhaps you should do so with a trusted confidante or counsellor perhaps? Otherwise your just getting it off of your chest & putting it on his, ya know?

May 8, 2009
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I think honesty is always the best policy, but first I think you should try to understand your own actions. Just my humble opinion.

May 9, 2009
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i agree with camer, u need to understand why you did this. because whatever it is, it will make you do it again, unless you recognize what your needs are, and why you are seeking somewhere else. and you better know soon, before you start hurting someone you love. if he is loving you well, he doesn't deserve to get hurt.

the pain of being cheated is not something we wish on anybody.

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