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I just got a text from Mr 22,...what the hell do I do? Soul
September 21, 2006
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I'm freaking out..it jsut said "hi" and i don't know what to do?? God, I cared about that little boy...SHIT!!! I'm shaking..god I miss him..

September 21, 2006
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DON'T REPLY, SS!! That will open the door to so much junk that you have gotten away from.

September 21, 2006
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Soul: I replied on the other thread. I don't think you want more heartache, honey. My vote is no,no,no! Talk through this with us if you want. Get it all out. I think you may find you don't want to open that door to have it kick you in the ass one more time.

September 21, 2006
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Soul,

See my reply on the sex thread. He's baaaaiiiiting you, girl. Are you taking the bait? Have you already?

September 21, 2006
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It was his eife..swho texted me..

Copied from the sex thread

ok...so I texted back hi? and he called me..and said she searched his records..blah..blah..blah..and then said you can't be calling or texting me..I said I didn't. He said she must have then. Then he asked if she called me today..and she did. OMG..she called me twice today...and then I called her back..and she sid she had gotten the wrong #. Then the fucking asshole, said...well if she calls you..you don' tknow me. I said..oh really!!! I daid..well, you were an ass to me..and I didn't deserve that. He said he was sorry! AHHHH...kiss my ass! He said well, I gotta go..she's at the store and I have to erase this shit!! I siad "Yah whatever!" and we hung up. Oh..I don't feel sorry for him..one bit!!!

September 21, 2006
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Sweetie, that is a real mess. Please be careful. I worry about you.

1L1

September 21, 2006
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Alright Soul - this is a bunch of crap if you ask me. You are WAY beyond these kind of lame games. Now, put this situation at the top of your memory list... because this is the Mr. 22 that you need to remember. His ass is first, his wife's feelings are second, and you don't seem to matter, other than "pretend you don't know me!" This is bullshit, and shows his true colors. You did nothing but care for him, and this latest situation proves that his motives were, and ARE self serving. Do away with this selfish, immature albatross and move on to someone more mature and deserving of your love and attention. This is who he is - pleases don't respond again Soul!

September 21, 2006
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Shaney..

I LOVE IT!! What you said..and to be honest..that is exactly how I feel about it. I almost told him to F-off..but, I decided against it .What a dumbass!!! I don't know, whether she will has my name..which would be bad..because I am the only person in this town..with that name. So, I think I should change my voicemail message...so she doesn't know my name. Shit..that could be bad. But, as far as he is concerned..he deserves what he got!!! I did care for him..and I was a good friend to him..and it felt so good to tell him he ended being an ass. Ah...now, I get to move on..and he has to deal with his own shit!! DUH! Why would he leave all of his phone records available..if he had done something wrong?? LOL..you know what's funny..he would say this "men are dumb, woman are psycho" looks like, I'm not psycho..but he is DUMB!!

Love Soul

September 21, 2006
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Hey Soul - don't put it past his wife to go the distance to find out why your number is in his phone (or whatever the hell she thinks). Be prepared - is all I'm saying. And being prepared doesn't necessarily mean that some big drama has to come of it. You can just say something as simple as, "Ask your husband." Period, finished. Let him work his way out of this mess he's created. And I'm predicting right now, that if things get too sticky with his wife, he's going to be right back to you. That's when you need to remember your last conversation with him. Turn him away Soul, or I'll be there to shake some sense into you :o) - and I don't mess around sister!

September 21, 2006
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OMG...He just called me again...and said his wife was there..with 20 questions...he said, "I told her we were just friends" and she wants to invite you over for dinner and meet you..and then he asked me if I would tell here we were just frineds on speaker phone. I did. Then she asked "well, then why was he texzting you at 1am in the moring.and he texted you back?" I said, "I',m going to go take care of my kids" and hung up. What the fuck was I supposed to say?????

September 21, 2006
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OK...now, I'm thinking about this..and what I should have said. But, they are all to cover his ass! His choices..and now I'm pissed because I will look like the whore! Cause, now I look like i knew all about her..when in the beginning I didn't. I don't want to defend him to her. FUCK HIM!! He cheated on her..and married her..and you know what..that would be ok!! But, the asshole..came back to MY HOUSE after he got married. WHY?? I didn't go to him..and then he had the nerve to be a fucking ass to me. So, now I think, I don't want to defend him..and dammit Shaney..I didn't read your post until after "they" called. Now, I'm thinking..my hanging up..says, he was with me. I don't care about that..what I care about is that..she thinks I knew about her..which I did..and that makes me look bad. I DON'T LIKE THAT! Because I don't get to tell her my side of the situation.

September 21, 2006
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The only person that needs to know your side, is you. You don't need to save anyone, or explain anything - especially to someone you don't know (his wife), and someone who is a bold face liar (him). Leave them to handle themselves. If they call again, don't answer. If he calls on his own and asks you to lie for him, tell him he's on his own. If they both call you, tell them to both grow up and quit bothering you. He made this bed, you don't need to lay in it with him, and you certainly don't owe him any favors. I wouldn't lie for that little idiot.

September 21, 2006
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Thanks Shaney!!! That's how i feel about it, now that I've thought about it. My cell phone has a business name on it. My mother's business. So, other than the fact that he said my name in front of her..she wouldn't know how to contact me. I won't answer any calls from them. He even told her..that I was frineds with his dad. DUH! Now she'll ask his dad..and his dad knows. His dad was there..when I spent the night..more than once.(not in the smae room..haha) Why he would be dumb enough to connect me with someone she could ask questions about..is beyond me.

September 21, 2006
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He's floundering and trying to pass the buck - which is only creating more of a tangled web. Now he's putting his dad in a bad position too! How selfish, I swear. I think you're covered then, if your mom's business name is on the phone. No worries - just try to play this smart from now on. Soul, we're too old for this crap :o)

September 21, 2006
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I am soooo wishing, I was a fly on the wall, at his house this evening. I can only imagine, what is going on. She is probably freaking out, which she should be. I would, if it were me! I'd be beating his ass!

I wish I would have told her..the truth. Should I have said that? That I cared about him. ugh!

Well, this gives me a much needed ENDING!!!

Loev you guys...Soul

Oh, and h-gal..I really don't know what I was thinking or hoping for..maybe that they broke uo..and he missed me. NOPE!!

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!!

September 22, 2006
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No NO NO...you shouldnt tell her you cared about him

Just keep that dignified silence and if it doesnt work tell them both to f**k off!!!!

you are much better than this s

September 22, 2006
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Hi Sleepless...

I didn't hear from them(Mr 22 and his wife)I won't take the calls. If it's important, he can leave a message. By important, I don't mean, him trying to be with me, I mean..like she knows who I am and is coming to slash my tires..lol! Not FUNNY!

I read your post..about the 5th of Nov. Why the heck do you think he sent me that?? I think his birthday is in Nov..maybe that's his bday, but still, WHY??

Oh..Mr 22, makes me want to puke rith now..so, I wouldn't be with him..if he begged me!!

Love SOUL

September 22, 2006
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Hi Soul! Just forget the jerk! Seems the country is full of the walking idiots.

Hope you are doing okay. I am only able to drop in here occassionally. I really have not been any real support to anyone.

Apologizing to my dears friend here..1L1

September 22, 2006
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Yeah it was probably his subtle way of letting you know when his birthday is...hey maybe he is thinking of putting on some fireworks of his own...lol...with you

That 22 sounds such a jerk and mrs 22 sounds so insecure. She must be worried every time he goes out of the front door...ha! Who needs it?

Not you my friend :0)

September 22, 2006
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Hi Lost...been thinking of you

hope youre ok

September 22, 2006
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Soul -

In my opinion, you need to step away from this for good. Helping him lie, or being honest with her will not help YOU in any way - you get nothing from it. And you will gain nothing from being nasty or vengeful, either. In fact, you will probably bring more harm to yourself, than good. This is his problem now. If he lies, let him... it doesn't hurt you because you're not directly invovled anymore. It's their mess to deal with. :o)

September 22, 2006
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And remember, no matter how you tell your side of the story, he will counter it with a bigger con job.

When the other woman contacted me with information about her affair with my boyfriend - she had irrefutable (sp?) proof. And he STILL tried to lie and cover it up to me. And his stories were pretty damn good.....but I take proof over his words any day. I give him credit for being creative....boy, could he tell a story.

If she just married him, she may be blind enough to believe his lies....so, even if you tell nothing but the truth, you will still look like the bad guy.

sorry to say it happens that way.

just walk away from the sitation.

September 22, 2006
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Soul: I agree w/ all the above. Do what you can to stay out of it- don't reply, don't anything. His wife has her hands full now trying to figure WHAT she MARRIED- I'm sure she not a happy camper right now- and any anger will be taken out on you. Stay way away from all of that- nothing good will come out of it- and thank your lucky stars you are not her.

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and remember YOU KNOW THE TRUTH - you do NOT need him or her to validate it or believe it.

believe in your heart that he's the one that cheated and you don't owe anyone any explanation for it.

September 22, 2006
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Don't put yourself in a postion where anyone would make you feel less than what you are. By being the middle of a relationship that you are no longer in put you in a vulnerable spot to be torn apart and also obviously you still have lingering feelings for this man even though he is no good for you and with someone else. Maybe you do want to help her in some way but just like you did, she has to figure it out on her own. I really cannot stand men like this. They get away with so much. He talks the talk but can't walk a walk.

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