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I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO SCARED IN MY LIFE--PLEASE PRAY FOR MY BF!!!--loverbee
June 27, 2006
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Hi Loverbee,

I have to agree with the others here. Your first post did not give any explination other than that he had drugs in his possession and that it was no big deal.

Very scary words to a bunch of people that have experience with drug abusers/addicts.

If you find his reasoning plausible and you trust him, that is really all that matters, but I don't think it is fair to accuse the people here of being judgemental for speaking the truth, the way they saw it, based on your post.

I also don't think that anyone was "wishing him harm." If it were true that he was in fact still doing drugs...the only harm would be to hope that he gets away with it without consequences.

You said: "Ok, so turns out that the day that he went to rehab seven years ago, his mother cleaned everything out and there is a good chance that he wasn't carrying anything afterall"

Has he asked his mother if she removed the drugs? That would one way to be sure if, in fact, they are gone.

As I said, I know you trust him and you believe him....and perhaps he is still clean.....but it seems a bit odd to me that his parents are STILL testing him weekly after being clean for 7 years. I would be doing you a disservice if I didn't caution you to at least be open to the possiblity and have a good long talk with this young man.

I wish you both the best of luck.

Lolli

June 27, 2006
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Loverbee,

In defense of others who have commented, you must understand that our opinions are colored by our life experiences. Would I believe MY husband if he told me that he "forgot" to clean out the drugs in his backpack. Hell no. When my husband had his car accident, he was in the hospital, doped up on tons of drugs. He tested positive for marijuana and opiates. I was still in denial. Even through his pain (broken pelvis in 3 places, 5 broken ribs, punctured and collapsed lung) that man said to me, "I don't know why they found pot in my system. Maybe it was from being next to the guys on the truck who were smoking. Oh, and do you think the police searched the car? There may have been some old roaches or something from before I quit," which was supposedly several months earlier.

So, when you told your story to a bunch of co-dependent people who have lived with addicts and addiction and lies and denial themselves, you might have expected some heated feedback.

As for me, I jumped into this thread after all was said and done, and I STILL have trouble believing 1) he forgot to take out the drugs; and even 2) his mom cleaned them out. Almost sounds to me like a defensive position to take some of the heat off.
I have done stupid things and prayed for God to protect me from my own stupidity. I could pray for that. I could pray that your friend's backpack be returned to him. Mostly I'd pray for God's will in this situation.

I'm not judging. I recognize my own human frailty and tendency to jump to conclusions based on my own experience. God knows all. I trust Him to do what's best whenever we lift a situation up to Him.

jill

June 27, 2006
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(((Loverbee)))

Just wanted to give you a hug...I hope your vacation in NY is all that you wanted and deserve it to be....

Everything..will work out..just like it always does...

Have fun...lucky girl...I am watching the movie "How to lose a guy in 10 days" makes me want to go to Ny so bad..It is such a funny movie...Kate Hudson..looks so much like here mother..Goldie Hawn..it's almost eery...

Love Soul

June 27, 2006
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I don't think your boyfriend can get in any trouble because he is not in possession of his backpack, and it cannot be proven that the drugs were put in there by him.
As far as NYC law, possession of a small amount of marijuana (not for selling) is now considered a ticketable offense. This means that getting caught with a small amount for personal use would just mean receiving a ticket that is no worse than a traffic ticket.
As for possession of all other illegal drugs, that is a felony I believe. But again, they cannot prove the drugs are his since he is not in possession of his backpack.

June 27, 2006
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I am sorry he lost his lyrics, that is awful, and I know it probably meant a lot to him, BUT a drug is a drug, whether he planned on using it or not, it is illegal. And from the first couple of posts, if I didn;t know any better, it sounded like you thought it was okay for him to carry these drugs around, and that all you were worried about was him getting caught with drugs. You didn't seem to worried about the lyrics because you didn't even mention them until the last part of your post.

I am in love with a recovering coke addict, i have been dealing with this for years, and I just think this sounds a little fishy. Why is he carrying them around? And don't use drugs tests to decide for you whether he is doing drugs or not because they are very easy to pass - I used to do it all the time.

June 27, 2006
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loverbee,
maybe just a little bit of miscommunication going on here. please let us know what happens.

June 28, 2006
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Everything is ok I think. He never got his bag back but there weren't any drugs in it so that is a relief. It is a little scary that it seems his computer was stolen and god only knows what kind of info people can find by stealing a computer but I am glad that he had the disc that held all the musical recordings he had made was in his pocket so he didn't lose them. We saw macbeth last night in shakespeare in the park. It was incredible. Seems like things are looking up for me a little.

June 28, 2006
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Im happy something is going right loverbee.

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