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i hate drinking, but feel left out
September 9, 2002
7:50 pm
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sparkle7
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ok well this isnt such a big problem.
Im 17, and most weekends, my group of friends gets together for a little party and a drink (alcoholic one)
Anyway, i feel like im over drinking, i dont like it anymore, i hate the way i feel in the morning, so i dont want to do it.
Everyone else at these little parties is drinking and being loud and happy, but because im not drinking, i just sit there and i feel really left out.
My boyfriend also ignores me a bit when he is drinking and he acts like an absolute dickhead.
Im a pretty shy and quiet person and i feel that if i dont drink, i cant have fun.
I sometimes wish i was more confident and louder, but then again, i like that im quiet and different to my other friends cause i listen.
I dunno how to have fun without drinking.

September 9, 2002
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Oh sweetie, don't ever think that you don't know how to have fun without drinking. You sound like a really sweet person so just because you don't enjoy what your friends are doing doesn't mean your not fun. You just enjoy other things and that's ok. When I was your age, I felt the same way, totally and I am 30 now and trying to stay sober. I could never have fun without alcohol and now i am dependent on it to have fun, but the fact of the matter is, YOU DON'T NEED IT TO HAVE FUN!!!! it's all an illusion and people just act different on it, it's really not them having fun, it clouds their values and judgements. And your boyfiend acting like a dick with is a a good example. You are very strong for realizing this, do your own thing and if your friends are pissed at you, trust me, their not worth it. 10 years from now half of them will be in rehab or with DUI's and you'll be just fine!!! Stay strong and find friends that truelly matter and that satisfy your intellect.

September 9, 2002
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awww thanx so much!
i guess im more mature than them, thats a good thing.
i like being me anyway.
im sure ill be able to have fun without it if i try. thanx heaps!

September 9, 2002
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That's the spirit sparkle...{hiccup}..who needs that?..you may not see it as a big problem now, but if you allow it to overpower you instead of empower you, my darlin', you will spend many weekend mornings not liking what you see in the mirror. Believe me I know..it isn't worth it. You sound strong and confident enough to ride this. Use the strongest part of your character, not the weakest part to overcome those moments when you would like to give in and be like everyone else..Or not be like everyone else...the decision you make now can be life changing.

September 9, 2002
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thanks so much irishlass, i think i just needed some re-assurance.

xoxox šŸ™‚

September 10, 2002
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Sparkle - no way! You're perfect how you are. Drinking etc should only ENHANCE your fun (if that's what you get into) it shouldn't BE your fun. You're not boring because you don't like drinking; the others are boring because they are only fun IF they drink - and as you've discovered (your bf) drinking doesn't always make you a nice person. You sound very mature. Good on you! Drink if you like; don't drink if you don't want to, but remember above all else that excessive drinking is typically only fun in the initial stages (while you are drinking - if in doubt think about those feelings you have the next day - not great, huh?). Sometimes it's hard to look towards the long-term ramifications of our actions, but prolonged excessive drinking isn't good for you (look at Nattie's post for confirmation). You're doing great sticking up for what you believe in.

September 10, 2002
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awwwww thanks everyone.
im my own person. and ill do what i want. id rather not drink than feel like crap in the morning. they might be having fun, but im still better than them. šŸ™‚ ner ner ner ner ner

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