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I got a call and i felt better
April 10, 2007
7:19 am
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haze
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She called me lastnight and, i felt good, too good. The girl says she loves me like a friend, but then says give her time to get her self together. That to me is going back and forth. We talked every day for 4 months all day until she got home from work. She would then tell me she had to take a nap. I had that sense that something was not right, but still had hope! This is my merry go round, i now want to get off. I am tired and don't know what to do! Every time i think i have found the one for me she is not. One after anothe for 20 years, any advice ?

April 10, 2007
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It sounds as if you feel you have to be in a relationship even if the person does not care for you as much. I think you know this deep down and then you end up struggling for attention. It appears to me there is a need for communication at all times, and this is not healthy to have to talk to this person. IT is too needy and looks like you invest all your time in a relationship when you could be doing your own thing and being ok with that and having a relationship is part of your life and not consuming you like this. I think it is possible you could be addicted to relationship and maybe are afraid to be alone. Alone is not so bad if you enjoy your own company and happy with yourself and have high self esteem. If you sense something is not right, then it is not right. It is called gut instinct so follow your instincts. They woman is saying to you that she is not ready for a relationship yet she keep you hanging on just in case. THis woman should do the decent thing and let you go so that you are not waiting around and suffering from anxiety. And you need to take the focus off having to need a relationship in order to make you feel better. When you depend on a person's phone call to make it through the day, you are in dire need to refocus your life on you. I hope I am making sense.

April 10, 2007
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hey haze, taj has given you some very sound advice. A little codependency recovery might help also. It's not healthy to put all your focus on one person.

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