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I felt uncomfortable with my counselor yesterday. Need thoughts.
June 8, 2005
4:38 pm
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As a therapist, I have to keep in mind that no matter what my intentions are for a client, it is their perspective on things that needs to come first, even if it does not line up to what "my" goals for them should be.

On first impulse, if she truly said that you were not committed to "our relationship", I would question whether there were clear goals set after the first session. Sounds as if she had made assumptions based on a different criteria than you had presented.

Kathygy is, in my opinion, correct when she said that the outcome of therapy is often the result of the quality of the therapeutic relationship. You and your therapist obviously did not start out well. I would tell you to tough it out except that you probably do not need the extra conflicts at this time. You need a counselor who is willing to let you set your own goals and encourage you along. The confrontations come once the relationship is solid and trusting.

sew - Thanks for sharing your experiences, it helps me a lot to read things from a client's perspective...I have to admit that I smiled when I read about you and the talkative therapist. All a process, huh, with this coda stuff?

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