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I feel like giving up on life
July 27, 2005
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I wake up everyday and think that I should be thank-ful for what I have, but instead I feel like dying. My husband who has left me took his girlfriend and our daughter to his mothers for dinner last night. I went and filed my taxes by myself yesterday because without him I get money back with him I don't...so he said that up until now casey and him were not a couple, but now they are because if he is going to show me. I just don't know why I cannot shake this feeling of dispair

July 27, 2005
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Oh honey, I feel your pain. My husband and I are separated due to his affair, and he does things with his girlfriend, her kids and our kids, and man oh man, I did NOT think I would ever get over the hurt and pain. Plus, I'm pregnant with our third, and I have done everything to get ready for this baby alone.

Keep talking about how you're feeling. And please trust me...no matter how bad it seems and no matter how dark things are....they do get better, and there is DEFINITELY life after separation!

I'm not "over" it yet, but for the most part, somehow, my life has gotten good, despite those down days. In the beginning, it was all dark. Not now...the darkness is fleeting!

You have been very hurt, and your husband is playing family with another woman. That is going to be hard to work through, but you WILL get through it, and the day will come that you are actually glad that he is gone...because who wants a man who would be so rude and so cold as to start another relationship when he's still married.

You can do better
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July 27, 2005
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i agree with all that ((KC)) said....and please think of all the good things you do have. Your hubby is not a good man, and he already has a gf...not good. Feel your feelings, and yes, it may seem awful now but things will get better, breathe deeply, hold & hug yourself and know that you are not alone & keep posting.

((camer))

July 27, 2005
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I have been dealing with this for the past month...and at first I was in such despair that like you I didn't think I could go on...but I did...and a month later I am here. Yes my heart is still broken, and I love the man...but life has gone on and with me in it.

It sounds much easier than it is to pull yourself together, I know. But once I started the grieving process and allowed myself to feel the pain, the pain started to fade away. Find little things that bring you joy and do them.

Here is a link to some good websites.

http://www.family.org/married/.....019167.cfm

http://www.illinois-family-law.....oAvoid.asp

Both of these gave me great inspiration and new insight...along with all the wonderful love and support I have received here on this board.

We're here for you...

July 27, 2005
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I have my days where I feel like giving up..then there are the days where I'm on cloud nine..and it's great..I think this is how life is..
I'm seperated with my husband and I miss him terribly..he hasn't worked in about 2 yrs. he's an addict..I found out he was messing around with a neighbor..he was spending most of his time at her house so I asked him to leave..this was about 4 months ago..since then he landed in jail.. wrote me pleading to get him out...I haven't..but I want to..I know it's not the answer..it's killing me to know he needs my help and I'm not doing it..my feelings about him are so mixed up..I don't think I can forgive him I just feel so bad about all that's happened..we got along really well..he just let himself get caught up in some crap and couldn't stop..I hate the fact that he has done this to us..and even after all of this he still says I've treated him bad thats why we had problems..out problems were him not working,getting high all the time, not being at home,staying gone all nite, not putting his 50% in our marriage..It's hard for them to see there part..there in such denial..I just pray for him and pray I can do what I need to do for me..this is all I can do..Angel1

July 27, 2005
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needsomepiece,
You have to stay strong for the little person inside of you. I had a very stressful pregnancy with my third child. Now he has depression/anxiety disorder, mild tourette's and adhd-inattentive type. I often wonder if he would have so many problems if I would have taken better care of my mental health during his pregnancy. Maybe that is taking on blame where none is needed. I hope you can feel better about yourself for the sake of your children.

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