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i dont know what to do, I found someone else and now the ex wants me back!
October 16, 2006
11:22 am
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Hi,

I thought about what everyone has been telling me. I told the guy that I have been seeing that I thought it was best he go home to his wife. I told him that when he files for divorce and has his own place then we can start dating like a normal couple. I explained to him that I dont plan on putting my life on hold for him but what we were doing isn't fair to anyone involved.

He agreed with me and moved back home on Sunday.

October 16, 2006
12:26 pm
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I find that most men need the push from the woman to do the right thing. most cannot do it on their own. And most (not all) always seem to have someone to fall back on when one does not work. Why is that?

I feel it great you took the initiative and set the boundaries, but in the end, he did what was predicted, go back to what is comfortable.

I see both of the men you have been involved with had someone to fall back on, someone waiting in the wings. And then there was you, also waiting in the wings for things to fail. I hope it is a lesson not to wait around for someone who cannot manage their own life, handle it on their own like a real man.

I think a part of you is still in denial though if you plan to wait around for him and date like a real couple. You did not have a good start with the married man and unfortunately he is going to in all liklihood, staying where he is. It sounds to me as if he would have gone back anyway regardless if you set the boundary or not. the reaction that he was not comfortable with you when he stayed with you is because he was not where he wanted to be, his heart was still at home. I hope you don't allow this married man back into your life. And I hope you do not consider taking back the other because you hurt over the other one. both of these men don't know what they really want and both of them use other people to fill a void. You need consistency, trust, a genuine person to return and give love. And neither of them can give you what you want. And it hurts terribly to be used, don't you think? Please think about your needs and less of what they need.

October 17, 2006
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