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I can't let go of past relationships
June 3, 2000
9:12 pm
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Zoe
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Recently I was in a bad relationship. I only realized this months after my boyfriend left me. However, although I can reconize that the relationship was not healthy, I cannot let go of it. I keep him around for something,and still talk to him often. I still even have sex with him sometimes, cuz it makes me feel loved. I know that it would be much better for me if I cut all ties to him, but for some reason I won't let myself do that.

June 4, 2000
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zoe...when we look outside ourselves, it implies that we are not whole within,,many times I;ve allowed outside influence to dictate my worth only to have this outside force slap me silly, so to speak. Felling that something or someone will determine my happiness is not in the cards, it just is'nt there. Oh, it may be a part but never the foundation of who we are. Maybe look at again.....motives, desires, and your intentions and see honestly what these tell you....it works for me.

June 4, 2000
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zoe, you deserve so much more!
Start to go to a womens self esteem workshop or journal and find out what is best for you. Buy the book "take time for your life" by cheryl robinson, find your own self love and you will find an endless amount of love from the outside will pour upon you.

June 4, 2000
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Zoe: Letting go can be most difficult, especially when we haven't finished the lesson at hand. Some relationships are for the here and now, some are long term (the lifetime kind), some are very fleeting. All are important in our journeys. The most important relationship a person can have is the one they have with their self. Ask yourself one question, does this relationship do me good. If the answer is yes, no problem, only more lessons to learn so you can proceed. If the answer is no, then you KNOW what you need to do. Treat yourself as you would your very best friend, all will be right for you. Peace is such a wonderful feeling within, may you find your's soonest...

June 4, 2000
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The above advice is all pertinent.

Also...unless you learn to let go and move on and also get healthy within yourself you are simply creating the kind of baggage that may lead you to repeat this relationship with others.

"The Two Step is a good book about relationships. Also for yourself "Codependent no More" by Melody Beattie.

The why's of your doing this may be in
unfulfilled needs within yourself. No other person can ever fill some of the voids we have within us.

You might want to discuss this with a counselor who would be able ti identify your behaviors for you and help you move in a positive direction.

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