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I can't believe that this is JUST NOW occuring to me..................
March 6, 2007
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.........for someone to actually "Be There" for me when I need them.

WOW!!!!

(This explains alot to myself about myself.)

So simple.

There HAVE been people in my life who were there for me when I needed them - just didn't realize it fully at the time.

I am now starting to feel safe in the world for the first time in my 46 years.

wow and whew.

My life is starting to shift for the better now - I can feel it profoundly and just wanted to share that realization here today with all of you.

I prayed last night with an open heart and mind - and got this answer this morning.

March 6, 2007
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((good for you Truth))) glad your life is shifting for the better!!!!

keep up the good work!!

March 6, 2007
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Thanks CAMER.

March 6, 2007
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truth,

Great news. Is this more about accepting support from these people and allowing them to help?

Cary

March 6, 2007
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Those people are not in your life by accident. I believe our HP is in control of all our relationships. Glad you are feeling lifted up and encouraged.

March 6, 2007
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TB, so glad to see you making these big steps! Its amazing when you start to think positive how your life starts to grow...and you realise that there ARE people who love you.

Rev.

March 6, 2007
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truth,

That's awesome that you are getting that! I have written on and off about this truth in various posts, and, it is reality. I believe this for myself most of the time.

I think, for me, I was so focused on people that were not good for me, and trying to make those painful relationships diffferent, that I didn't see who was in front of me, quietly there, extending their friendship. When I woke up, they were there, just like they have always been, but I appreciated them in a new way and noticed how healthy they are too!

March 7, 2007
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Way to Go TB!

March 7, 2007
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Truthbtold, I am here for you. horsefly

March 7, 2007
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WOW - Thanks all! So great to hear from each and every one of you!!!

I dunno - I just prayed about it - being VERY SPECIFIC about just lifting the burden off of me and the next day it occured to me all of the people who HAVE BEEN there for me.

I had not realized how much I was concentrating on who wasn't there for me for so long - and I just kept perpetuating that mindset - without ever realizing it - until now.

(Also, please see my other post about going to a funeral recently if you'd like more info.)

I just can't believe how much better I am finally starting to feel.

For the first time - experiencing what a sense of "normalcy" feels like - it is so incredible!!!!!!

WOW!!!!!!

That horrible weight has been lifted off....and continues to be.

Thank you for all of your kind and loving words of support everyone!!!!!

(((((HUGS TO ALL)))))))

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March 7, 2007
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Cary,

I just realized that you asked me a question: Is this more about accepting support from these people and allowing them to help?

Well, at the time when I was getting the support - I felt weird and uneasy about it - even a little skeptical - that maybe it was done out of some sort of obligation or something. Couldn't really embrace it completely because I was still in the habit of shutting down and splitting off whenever ANYTHING happened - good or bad.

But now, it is alot like Gracenotes explains it.

I have kind of taken an "emotional inventory" and thought about the times when some people were there for me and likewise, I for them - and there wasn't that sense of obligation involved.

Just simply mutual caring and love.

I feel that I am well on my way to "Growing Up" and can now understand what a therapist told me years ago about "Intra-Dependency."

Not - "Co-Dependency", not out and out "Dependency" - but the mutual type of dependency which occurs between adults when bad times hit a bump in the road and you are just simply there for one another WITHOUT the drama.

Ahhhhhh. Nice!!!!!!

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