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i am so smitten w/this guy. will he call???
January 21, 2005
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you just described what happened that night but i did not do it intentionally, anyway, i got the news though, our mutual friend that i talked to earlier well i called him back a few minutes ago, and he said that wayne is already pursuing this woman and that he wants to see how this is going to work out. so he wants to be friends and he thinks the world of me. sounds like bs to me. i am so hurt but i feel like i set myself up big time. and it makes me mad becuz this other man quite attractive and a really good friend and x as well was there that night and as soon as he left the table wayne b lined over there to the table and stood the whole night and wouldn't leave so my other friend ended up leaving. so that triangle you actually are talking about happened. man i am so hurt. i don't understand what happened. i felt like there was something between us, i mean it was there. who in the world spends half the night laying in bed talking mostly till five in the a.m. what is up? i did not see this coming. i thought he felt something too. i don't know what to do now. i guess just move on. i mean he must really like this person although they have only been out once. shit..

January 21, 2005
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No. Stop crapping on yourself. I'm going to write a longer thread but just hold on.

January 21, 2005
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the woman isn't divorced, she is separated and getting a divorce but it isn't final or anything, she also lives in dallas, not here and our friend was telling me that she will come in town and go out with her friends and not even see wayne. i guess it is that hard to get thing. i am so sick of games. why can't we just be up front this is the way it is. i bet he feels like he didn't lead me on at all, he told me so much crap and any woman would of thought he was interested. why do men do that? i would really like to know. is it out of sight out of mind. what?? i don't take loosing very well. he will regret this. lol...

January 21, 2005
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ren'ai i guess there are red flags. obviously, because i sure didn't see this coming. i feel like such a fool. thanks for posting.

January 21, 2005
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I'm sorry. A girl did the same thing to me. Come to think of it a couple of them have, recently. Life can be a bummer sometimes and no matter how acustomed to vinegar I may become it doesn't change the fact that I like honey better.

Anyway, I wish I had a better solution than comiseration. I'm sorry the guy was an ass. I'm also sorry you feel you betrayed what you might have had with that other guy.

Maybe it was for the best though. I'm thinking you have a great night ahead of you purchasing Hagendaas and maybe we can start another thread and talk about things that are good. Every now and then you can vent about what an ass he was and we can entertain each other with interesting stories and whatnot.

January 21, 2005
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it is kind of funny but the other man called me five times the next day and that night as well. it really lit a fire under his butt. lol.. oh well. he is better looking anyway lol.. i guess that is the only answer, he is a royal ass. i will try and take it litely. i have a hard time doing that. just like the guy that is calling all the time now, he got all cocky and relaxed as well and tried to pull the same crap a few years ago, he is much more humble these days.

January 21, 2005
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Hah! So it sounds like you're still getting your cake. Just not in the way you expected it. It seems like this second guy has matured a bit. Maybe he's better? (Than door number one.)

January 22, 2005
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man i wish i had never asked wayne to go with us out to that club. man i am so mad. it feels like one of your best buds just screwed you over. venting here. i want to get him back so bad. i know that isn't healthy. you want them to regret doing this crap. you know when i was a total B years ago i never had this problem. i was never the one getting hurt. i never let myself care about anyone and it seems that if you show that you care or relax then you get slammed. i think i am going to go back to the tough B then i won't have any men problems.

January 22, 2005
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i think i am going to shovel his shit right back at him.

January 22, 2005
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NO! Don't do that. There are too few really good people in the world. Remember this feeling that you have and do your best to make sure no one else around you feels this way.

That includes the next guy to come into your life. And as for the next guy who comes into your life. Find out what he's about. Talk about how he views the world and look for good things that he does. Look for how he makes the world a better place and there's your man. That's what I look for in the women I'm attracted to. Do they make the world a better place?

You find him and you'll have a lot more than most people have. The guy you lost a the bar was a dick. He was a self-centered dick. He'll get his lesson but it's not your job to do it.

I know you're venting and I'm not trying to take it away from you but I've also already seen where you're trying to help other people. That makes you a good person. Keep doing it. It's easy to do. A lot of what these people need is just a kind word here and some honesty and Love there and on their way they'll go.

They'll take that good that you gave them out into the world and give it to the next person they see in a pinch. And so on. Sure, it's not much and it's not the warm guy holding you but like I said earlier. We create love instead of waiting for it to come to us. If we create enough of it, maybe it will find us.

January 22, 2005
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Heya everyone. I'm trying to catch up on such an (obviously) hot topic... lol

Anyways, (((november))) in a nutshell, or copy and paste, what's up?

January 22, 2005
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in a nutshell, i met a old high school friend who actually had a crush on me at that time, we had a good time with friends etc. he fed a big line of bull and i fell for it then to find out he just wants to be friends that he is going to pursue someone else after he acted so interested and yada yada all over the place. anyway that is what happened. and i ampissed that a friend would do this to you.

January 22, 2005
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so he didn't have a crush on you 'back when'?

January 22, 2005
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he had a crush on me all the way through school. i would never go out with him. well, we have ran into each other off and on out at the store etc. he has always asked me to come out to the club where everyone goes, i would say no. well i finally went. fell for him more or less and it was all bullshit. he had no intention of dating me i guess, i don't know really what it was about. why he did what he did and said the things he said but it turns out he is gong to date this other woman and he "thinks the world of me" but he just wants us to be friends.

January 22, 2005
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Oh. So maybe he just wanted to see if he could 'bag' you. (Not even meaning it in a sexual way, but as in you wanting to go out with him). You know, because he couldn't get you back then.

January 22, 2005
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probably so, well i think i will bag him back lol.. just kidding. i like that saying.

January 22, 2005
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probably so, well i think i will bag him back lol.. just kidding. i like that saying.

January 22, 2005
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No. He was just horny, intoxicated, and couldn't control himself. Men don't do shit for validation. When we're at our worst we're thinking with our prick.

January 22, 2005
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well i have swore off drinking from now on because that is the only reason that all this happened, had i not been drinking he would not have been able to pull this off. duh.. what was i thinking... i wasn't.. i was just cuttin loose and having a good time with my friends. i thought they all were my friends. he wasn't looking out for my best interest. but i wasn't looking out for anyones best interest lol.. so can't get mad about that. oh well. no drinking

January 22, 2005
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november- Oh! I didn't realize you guys were all liquored up! That explains a lot...

Phalic- And yes, men do think with their pricks. Thank you for being man enough to admit fault. I respect you for that! =)

January 22, 2005
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november -
I missed something . . . have you seen him since the first time and knocked boots (I like that phrase) or what? Please fill me in . . .

PL -

I appreciate your comments about not being pathetic. However, just to clarify, I am not chasing after some guy who is married or otherwise. That other thread was about a situation with a friend that seemed a little paranoid to me.

January 22, 2005
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no marley i haven't seen him, i just found out that at this time he wants to date this other woman that he met about a month ago. i guess all that he was saying was just the booze talking. who knows. anyway, it is all done for now. our mutual friend said that he "thinks the world of me" but at this time he just wants to be friends. i was shocked at the night then i was shocked with this as well. but who knows on down the road our paths may cross again, but i sure didn't like the way things were handled but we were all drinking so that has to be taken into consideration. how are you doing? i have been doing ok till tonight, am feeling depressed, its the weekend. it gets better on monday....

January 22, 2005
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november - OMG I swear we have the same life! I just found out today that the DR. is considering working stuff out with the ex and blah blah blah. I guess I am glad to know now before anything happened and real feelings and stuff got involved but it was so nice to be excited about someone new. So I feel for you. I am at home working late until I have to pick my sister up at the airport. Feel free to write - I will be here.

January 23, 2005
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hey marley, no i didn't see him accept that one night, a mutual friend told me last night that he just "wants us to be friends" and that "he thinks the world of me". who knows what all the stuff he said was coming from and why, i don't have a clue. i was shocked about the night and then i was shocked to hear that as well. he decided he wanted to go ahead and pursue this woman he just met a month ago and they had been out once and he is going to continue that and if something happens he would be interested more less. WHAT??? yeah, anyway i have to laugh.. i guess it was the booze talking as far as him.

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sorry i posted twice, i didn't see that it posted the first time. mystery to me. i mean more than likely i could date this person later one because the woman he is dating isn't even local and she is going through a divorce but you know i think i will proceed with caution and it i get the opportunity i will dish out some of the same that was dished to me. lol... don't they just blow you away....

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