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May 13, 2004
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Gore
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i have serios issues. I attacked my boyfriend for the 4th time lastnight and I feel horrible. I feel he pushes my buttons so much adn he eggs this type of behavior on. He wants to leaveme now. And I dont want that because it is not the basis of our relationship. i am normaly happy and we are great. I just freak out for nothing it seems like. Now my guy is going to awork with a busted lip. I feel terrible.

May 13, 2004
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First of all you have taken a very big step in admitting you have a problem with anger. Now the sensible thing to do know is seek professional help. There's no shame in going to counceling or anger management classes. Talk to your man and tell him you know you have a problem and ask him if he can stand beside you while you do your best to fix it.

Do you love this guy? If so you need to express that with all your heart.

What do you think it is that makes you freak out?

May 13, 2004
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I agree with fairy99....you should seek some help, esp. since this has happened 4x. Call a hotline or talk
to a counselor and then sit down and
talk with your boyfriend and hopefully you can reconsile.

May 13, 2004
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Or find another boufriend. Sorry to say that. I used to have all kinds of conflicts with my husband- he was just driving me nuts. It was several times I was out of control. Now- with boyfriend I have now- I would not cross the line- not that I afraid- he is bigger then my ex, but- just respect- I don't know- I can't even scream at him. So- I believe- it up to man- some of them will let you do that to them. It looks like they even love you more- isn't it gos both way- for men and women?

May 14, 2004
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Yeah, my current boyfriend will push my buttons sometimes but I'm not a hitting person. I didn't even know I was a yelling person until we had our second argument... I could be just a personality conflict. I've just realized that my boyfriend has a lot of the traits my mothers has. If I couldn't live with her, I know I can't live with him...

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May 14, 2004
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Words and actions hit as hard as fists. What you did was wrong, but if he is driving you to that point then you need to remove yoursefl from him. You now know that you have a problem with anger, you now know that you are capable of hitting him. You now know how terrible it makes you feel. If you do not remove yourself, or get help, and fast, then you are responsible for whatever happens next. Do what you know is right and get help and remove yourself from the situation.

May 14, 2004
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You said you were normally happy and you two were great and that you freak out for no reason. But first you said he pushes your buttons and eggs it on? If you're normally happy and have not done this before, what's going on? Is he pushing your buttons and egging it on or are you freaking for no reason?

What do YOU think is going on, really?

May 14, 2004
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Gore,

What do you think he does to "egg you on?"

Incitement to riot is not an excuse to riot.

Do not hit him again. Ever.

Breaking up with you? Count yourself lucky that you did not spend the night in jail. It may still come to that.

You need professional help, really. Anger management alone is not gonna do it, nope.

May 14, 2004
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Well- you know- here is the things you can take and keep arguing, but here is the things that you hit the one in a face. Man or woman- it is a rules. I mean- if woman harassing me at work- I would not fight at work, but I may ask her to step out on parking lot. You set the limits, you let people know what you willing to accept. I can say- I warn you- never say or do it again. If he/she doing it again… I mean- WD! If “big guy” harassing your woman, you will get up and fight, not thinking- Incitement to riot is not an excuse to riot. It good to remove yourself from situation, if you can. If you can’t- got to fight.

May 15, 2004
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I'm not hearing about a fight--just sounds likes assault and battery to me.

May 15, 2004
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well, maybe you both have a slight porblem in that he "pushes your buttons" and you lash out, maybe you should BOTH go to see a professional. get help and maybe he will stop what hes doing and then you`l have no reason to lash out.

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