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I am in pain
November 25, 2000
5:37 am
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innerchild
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I was born in one country, but now I live
in another.

I was born speaking one language, now I
speak another.

I was born with one name, now I have chosen
another.

I was in one religious framework, now I
have chosen another.

I have academic degrees, professional
credentials and titles.

But, inside, I feel hurt. I am a victim
of child abuse and sexual abuse. But I
can't come to grips with the pain.

Family members try to help and have
approached me with various religious
ways to cope. But, I don't want to cover
up my pain. I want to find a way to deal
with it openly and honestly. I changed
my life in some ways. But I am searching
for a way of changing the "way I relate"
to my pain. I am tired of trying to cover
it up.

How can I deal with it without being
trapped by it?

inner child

November 25, 2000
11:58 am
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Molly
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It all starts in the brain, you need to change the way you think, reframing. There are several books that can help you, but you are the one in controll. The glass have empty, or half full. That simple, and it takes practice.

November 26, 2000
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Plus....going through the pain is part of the healing process. Dealing with what caused the pain (with a professional) may even make the pain worse for a while. Then the healing truly begins.

A broken leg, surgery to heal something, a bruise...all take time to heal and all have some pain while doing so...your soul/heart is no less than your physical body.

If you are not denying the casues of the hurt in your heart than you are going to have some pain associated with it..others have hurt you...IT hurts to think you have known people that would betray you and abuse you...

That pain of yours is honest pain...don't revel in it but believe it..it is telling you something.

and it sounds like you are listening to your self. YOU CAN come to grips with the pain...it's not easy or quick. But you are so much farther along than someone who is ignoring the pain

It sounds like you may have a start on knowing who you are....keep working

Good luck.

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