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I AM IN NO CONTACT WITH A FRIEND OF MINES AND I NEED SUPPORT
May 31, 2007
4:08 pm
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Hello Everyone,
I guess now is the time that I need support from friends like you all.
I have been seeing a friend of mines and everything was going good until last week. My job had me and other employees to work 4 tens so that we could have that friday off before the holiday. Well that friday came and I wanted so much to get everything done so that I can be free for the weekend.
Well when my friend saw that I haven't left for work yet, he drove back to my house and bang on the door. when I answers the door I can tell that he had this look on his face. Not the look of I'm glad to see you look but the look like I didn't tell him that I was going to be off.
Now lets back this story back a little, since I have been knowing him, I already know that when there is a holiday, I'm sure that everyone is working hard to just get that day off. My friend called me on that thursday night to explain that he was working really hard because they were pushing them because of the day off. He ask me if I was doing anything for the weekend and I told him no, He said that he ask that question so that he could VOID any situation that would come up and I said that WE need to change things in our relationship.
Now this is where the no contact begin, I didn't call him at work on that friday because like I said I was busy. I was going to wait until he got home so that we could talk. Well I was so happy to hear from him when he called but this is what I had gotten:
After I said hello,
he yelled into the telephone
WAS YOU GOING TO CALL ME. I DIDN'T HEAR FROM YOU ALL DAY AND YOU OUT THERE DOING GOD KNOW WHAT.
Well I hung up the phone because I thought to myself, regardless of who calls who, that wasn't right. It seem like if he don't know what I am doing, he is thinking of the worst. Well he left a message on my phone but I didn't listen to it because it is always stupid stuff that he is saying to me so I deleted it.
Well on Monday he decided to go get him another woman and my son saw him. My son didn't want to tell me but he felt that he needed to tell me because of the type of woman that she was looking like.
I guess after I heard that, I don't want anymore to do with him but now I have to learn to not call him anymore and tomorrow is my birthday. Maybe he want call but I just want to be strong with him if he does.
It just brought back bad memories with my ex, he was that same way. Thinking that I out there doing something but I'm not.
Nappy!

May 31, 2007
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No offense but to be honest this guy sounds like a bit of a nutcase. I think You can do better but I know how hard the no contact thing can be. I am sorry you are having to go through this but I think it will be for the best in the end.

May 31, 2007
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nappy, you need someone strong and secure.

this guy is NOT it...if he is so quick to think you are doing something wrong...then too bad for him.

and to act immature and find another woman that quickly...sorry, move on.

Sounds like you made the right choice...and he just put the final nail in the coffin.

I'm sorry it worked out this way...especially around your birthday.

I hope you can still enjoy it and make the most out of your special day!

May 31, 2007
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Oh happy birthday. (((((nappy)))))

May 31, 2007
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And the killing part about this situation is that my boys does not like him.
They kept saying that it was something about him that they didn't like but you know when we have on our blind glasses, we can't see anything.

May 31, 2007
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Hello. It is your birthday? Happy birthday, friend.

He will call. And I hope he does so you can give him the what for. I think he treated you badly. Step on you this way. And you did not let him either. He tried. He has big ego for sure.

My advice would be to not let this recent event overshadow your birthday. Focus on you and the good, less on this jerky behavior.

HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY to the angel of this site.

May 31, 2007
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Oh Taj, Thank you so much.
Thank you all.
Sometimes when mens do me like this, it makes me feel less than a woman because I'm doing the best I can when it comes to relationship and I get so tired of them, always making it like I am out there with Tom, dick and harry when I am only true to them.
I am an old fashion girl and I guess I will always be like that. I refuse to cater to a man every need because he needs a cheerleader.
Damn it! I need a cheerleader too and I don't care if HE does wear a mini dress and jump his ass as high in the sky as his little legs will lift him.
Damn it! wave them pom pom so that I can stand up and cheer also(smile)
Nappy!

May 31, 2007
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Happy Birthday to you

Stay focused on all the good out there. Take your focus off him, and if possible have no contact. Every time you feel weak, phone a friend or e mail us.

You deserve the best life and love have to offer you.

God bless x

May 31, 2007
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Nappy I agree with you. Why is that way? It should be give and take. You shoud want to do special things. So many guys make it hard to want to do that. This new guy in your life, tell him to get on the NEXT bus! Love is about sharing, I truly believe that.

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