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I am hitting the rock on the bottom about my life- Slient Jaguar
June 16, 2007
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I need your help to have some input. I am hitting on a rock of the bottom. I am a college graduate and barely finding a full-time job and be able to stay on the job. I lost my car last year because I couldn't make to able to make my payments.

I moved to the south to make a new life and made some agreements with my brother in law to use his car to buy off from him. I have been looking for a full-time job over three months and I only had two interviews in three months. I had a professional looking at my resume and made some corrections. I submitted many resumes. I did not get good results, then I failed to make payments with my brother in law. He wants to get his car back. I just moved back with my dad and I am living on the coach. I do not have a car at this point. I am collecting my benefits and have many unpaid bills and college student loans. I tried to find a job something like data entry clerk but they offered me at the lowest pay I could get that is not equal what I am supposed to earn with my college degree.

I have been crying lots today when my family showed up to see me. I feel like a failure because I thought I would provide my family that I am succeed in what I have accomplished for. I am the only one who got a BS degree in my family. They see me having a hard time to supporting myself or holding on a job.

I am clueless how to get a car. My family do not have money to get a car for me. I am not be able to get an auto loan because of being unpaid bills. I am really at the lowest point of my life. I feel that my self-esteem is going really flat because I couldn't get an employer hiring me. Otherwise, I never been on any drugs or have problems with alcohol.

Right now, I only have two important things in my life is my personal things and my long-time cat. My dad has problems to have my cat around in the house. He asked me to put my cat in the shed, but I feel so bad to leave my indoor cat alone in the shed around the tools and dusty materials.

I wished that I could return where I was staying a while ago but I wasn't afford to pay the rent and the food on my own. I feel like a shit now and feel shamed front of my family members now.

June 17, 2007
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SJ~

Reading your post brought to mind stories I've read when the person was at their bottom THEN their life turned around and they ended up with a major inspiring success story.

Hang in there...keep working at it…your hard work will pay off.

June 17, 2007
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SJ:

I remember you. I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Let's see what we can come up w/,

Cat... can you close your cat in your room during the day or will it tear things up? If so, lock her in a kennel in your room. She may cry at first but will get used to it. Leave her favorite toys w/ her and one of your older shirts so she will feel secure.

Do you live in a city w/ public transportation? How do you feel about riding a bicycle? Maybe a neighbor will carpool? You might try freecycle in your area for a car. Sometimes folks put out a distress for a vehicle and it is given. That or craigslist is is another good place to look.

The job situation. Honey, take whatever job you can get at this point to get on your feet somewhat. McDonalds is better than nothing. Actually, McDonalds doesn't pay that bad and has health and other benefits as well. Then you can keep putting out your resumes and see what comes along.

I'm sorry you are feel so down. Lets get up and make something happen. You are strong and I am confident you will be fine.

Hope this helps some.

June 17, 2007
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(((SJ))))

Oh Lord, when I read your post, I saw myself in many situations when I lived with my parents & hit rock bottom. I have good news for you hon: The way up is the way down. You ARE on your way to be promoted in every area in your life. This is how it goes.

I'm sorry about your kitty, coz I love my kitty so much. In fact, she/kitty is my best friend. Can you NOT move out from your present place and be independent? Or even share another apartment with a room mate your feel comfy with who accepts your kitty? In this way, at least you have your autonomy and at least no one from your family can bother you or put you down. I know family memebers can be our worst enemies in situations like that and can lack empathy and compassion which even increase our misery.

The best advice I can give to you is: Persevere, NEVER EVER GIVE UP!!! You are admirable, SJ, and if you continue like that, you will find a good job, even if the pay is lil; remember: half a loaf is better than none. In time, you can start to look for another job that pays better.

Please keep us posted sweetheart!

{{{Hugs & Prayers}}}

June 17, 2007
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Hi Silent J.,

I agree with the others. You may have to accept any offer of employment just to get your feet in the door. Once employed, you can begin to pay off some of your debts and hopefully, put some money aside, as well. What was your major in college? Perhaps, go to your local library and locate the Occupational Outlook Handbook. THis wonderful resource gives you plenty of information on what careers are out there, what the salary is, where the jobs are located and so on. Perhaps, your universtiy has a job placement service that can assist you. I know you said you moved but I would attempt to contact them, nevertheless.

Remember, your first job need not be your last. It is just a steppingstone for things to come.

Good luck. Why don't you give us more specific information regarding the type of job you are looking for and the geographic location you are willing to work in. Possibly, somone here can give you more speciific information. I know, for example, that here in New York, there is a government sponsored program that provides job training and job placement services. I am sure other states have similar services. Don't be afraid to reach out to those on this site. People here are definitely on your side.

I wish you well.

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June 17, 2007
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(((SJ))) I just wanna put 2 cents in and say you got some nice help here!
Then I wanna add ...

Try your best to keep your cat. Its a great source of affection and company. I got a kitty and started feeling a whole lot better from deepression. Keep trying your best. Never mind your family expectations, nor your high hopes at the moment. Just do your best at this time. Its been difficult worldwide. Im in South America, its really tough here, too. Jobs and family are a tough combo. Accept help graciously without making waves. Remember that it will be difficult to keep a job while looking for one. You may have to find white lies, such as going to the doctor, while going to an interview. If you lose a job due to anxiety and lack of concentration, try again. You´re in a hard position. As Ras said, persevere and think of going down to get impulse to jump higher. Pray and meditate so you´re in line with your Higher Power and yourself. Dont compare yourself with others - there will always be better AND worse people than you (Desiderata).

Good luck!

June 17, 2007
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Contact that company that was willing to offer you a job and see if it is still open. Never mind what the pay scale is. Take whatever you can get, just to get your foot in the door and have some income....ANY income.

Having a college degree is no guarantee these days of high-paying work. Even a Masters is considered "No Big Deal," anymore. You are desperate and don't have a choice. Take ANY job. And you may have to pedal a bike to work or find carpooling arrangements. If you are lucky, you live in a city which offers public transporation (bus/train/cab/metro).

Do whatever it takes to get to work. And take any work you can, so you have some income.

- Ma STrong

June 17, 2007
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Hello everyone:

Thanks for all of your support! I can put in more information about myself. First of all, I hope it is true that there will have good news coming in. I need good news to cheer up after seeing many setbacks in my life.

June 17, 2007
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Opps! I accidently pressed the key to send the thread.

My cat is living with me in the trailer with my dad. My dad doesnt like any animals in the trailer, but last night he finally told me that he is letting my cat staying here because I feel anxious when my cat is staying in the dirty shed. My dad understood because I have my cat for five years.

Bad news, I cannot stay in the city where I was staying because my cousin told me to move out because I cannot afford to pay him for the rent. I moved back with my dad in the country. We do not have any public transportation around here. For jobs, it may be hard for me. I have BS degree in Human Services. In this country, we do not have many human services jobs yet, but most cities do have it. I am trying to find a way to get another car around here then I can apply for jobs in the city. I may have to move around, maybe back in Florida or Washington, DC depends if I can get a job. If I want to stay here and get a job, we only have fast food, Wal-Mart's, and retail stores around here.

June 17, 2007
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Yes I really mean it. I was in your place b4 SJ, that's why I identify and empathize with a lot of crap.

Cheer up {{{SJ}}}!!! The bright future is waiting for you IF you believe!!!

June 17, 2007
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SSJ...you say your degree is in human sservices??? Have you checked out the states you mentioned 'State Employement web sites' for work in the human servies area???

I work for the State (MN) in the human services field - its a fairly good paying job...works for me. A few months back I was checking around comparing the field I'm in to other states and the pay really varies. One example is TX - for what I do here - there its like half of what I make. Don't think I will be moving to TX anytime soon!!

I have a gf who has a 4 yr degree in Social Work. She is employed by the Federal government (Social Security)- and its not even what her degree is in BUT the qualifications for her position required at least a 4 yrs degree - in anything. and OH she also is making like $60-$70,000 yr!!

Sounds like you're willing to relocate, and with that your options will open up greatly. Again..good luck!! Like Ras said - there is a bright future ahead...don't let your current discouragement get you down cause when we do that we stay stuck in that thinking.

June 17, 2007
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Thanks for all of your advices..

Lovinglife- It is for me to find a Human Services job in Georgia that is where I am currently living in. I have great support from my family, but I know that I have to relocate somewhere else because most jobs in my town has low wages (5.25 to 8.00). I went to a private University with expensive student loans. I cannot survive with 8 dollars per hour in a long term.

Social security would be a great place for me; however, I am profoundly deaf and I cannot speak with the customers. I am thinking about becoming a dorm counselor for the deaf school in Washington, DC where I can get good pay. It is a plus, but not close enough to be around my family in Georgia. I can come back on holidays. At least I can try to find my happiness and let my career growing.

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