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I am having a really bad night and need advice
July 31, 2005
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Yesterday when I found this site I thought i at last had the answers. I do have ansers but I am not a strong as I thought and the answers are not any good if I can't use them to feel better. I am sitting here crying, it feels like my chest will explode. I am just hot like I am suffocating, I don';t have anyone to talk to. Pease help me get through the next few minutes until I get control again. I am starting to hyper ventialte. I am so afraid when is it going to stop feelling so bad?

August 1, 2005
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Co dependence can it get better? Can you be co dependant with one person and not others. I just keep dropping people from my contacts as I am suffering inside so much and it has gone on for so long I am so ashamed of what I am. I am so convinced I am the cause of all my problems. I don't know where or what to turn to. Will I ever get used to him being gone? How and why do I go up and down like this? I keep reading info on the net and tonight I feel like I must have about 50% of the mental illnesses you can have.

August 1, 2005
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hey, boots, i am here...have you ever heard of the book boundries?
i love it. it has helped me alot.
what ya want to talk about?

August 1, 2005
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u know, i found your other thread and was responding at the same time u were making this one....cool huh?
i hope you feel better in aminute. what kinda puppies do you have? i love shitz-zus. (not spelled right)
i have three.

August 1, 2005
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Lost and found. We can talk about anything I am feeling so alone and rejected I feel out of control. I know I am in a panic or anxiety attack or something. Tell me how long I can expect to feel like this until I start to improve.

August 1, 2005
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i honestly don't know, but each time should be shorter. do u take anything for anxiety? how long has it been since the break up? what have u done with your puppies?

August 1, 2005
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i am in the southeast, it is 12; 16 am here. hot as -----. one more week and my teenagers go back to school. yyyyeeeeaaaa.....

August 1, 2005
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i read a book setting boundaries but unfortunately I did not imbrace the advice and just kept isolating myself. I have the notes on my phone and computer, "don't you dare!!! so I am reminded not to call my husband. I keep checking my email to see if he emailed me. I am hoping he will email me and then I will show him by not responding. Yeh Right!
I have 4 Shih Tzu puppies. 3males 1 female. I would like to keep one as this is the last litter my dog will have. When my shuband was here we had 3 Shih Tzu's but he took 2 with him. Our legal agreement says I am to have them at least once a month and he has brought them only twice and I miss the dogs and I get distracted about him instead. I hate myself. He has seen me like this but he is now immune to it. Has been for a long time and I did not do anything about it. I quit trying!

August 1, 2005
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Are you there lost and found. I'm sorry I have been just thinking of my own pain here and not anyone else. You have teenagers? Enjoy them as you will miss them when they leave home and you will regret every lost moment. Thank you so much. I think I may be addicted to prescription drugs I am waiting for the clinic I go to to open the day after tomorrow so I can see if I am and what I could do about it. I can't stand living with this much pain.

August 1, 2005
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alright..my dogs are a blonde named puffer, he's my baby..., a black and white named cookie,...and a white named gerty. my puffer can't swim a lick, fell in the pool once ,paddling for all his mite, went straight to the bottom....
do your dogs like cheese? mine can be sound asleep all over the house but when i open a piece of sliced cheese, they will show up in three seconds....

August 1, 2005
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do u take prescription medication?
for pain? nerves, arthritis?...oh, i love my kids very much, i am the neighborhood mom, everybody is always here. that way i know what they r doing...my oldest is in second year of college...one more year and he will go to statesboro...plans to be a dentist.
hope he succeeds...

August 1, 2005
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They like cheese and vegetables and fruit. Their most favorite treat is cooked liver. I buy it, freeze it and then cook it in the microwave and cut it into little bite size treats and they love it. I store the pieces in snack bags inside a larger bag and it lasts 10-14 days before she eats it all. Her name is Misty she is 8 and I love her to pieces. Some nights I am awake and find myself just holding and hugging her. I am so afraid something will happen to her. She was badly abused and I bought her from some tough people to help her. I never had my own dog before and now I can't be without her. I am going to try and show her and the puppies at a dog show at a seniors home on Tuesday where my mother is. Mom has been in a home for 4 years.

August 1, 2005
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It is the best compliment a parent can have to have the teenagers hanging out at your house. I always remember that, the kids hung out a my house! That was before I married numb skull and gave up everything I did to cater to him.

August 1, 2005
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i used to only have poodles..then one day i went in a pet store with my husband..i saw these giant balls of fur with no face or tail. i picked one up and said, pay the man honey, cause i'm keeping him..i love him to death, bought cookie for a wife. have had two litters. gave them away to friends. i have grand puppies all over georgia and florida. (paid a fortune for cookie, and she acts like a bum..loves mud puddles and dirt)

August 1, 2005
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My first dog was a shitzu. He bit me at least a dozen times (he was blind and easily frightened). I didn't care- I loved him no matter what. Now I have a long haired chihuahua mix. She is 5 years old, I've been with her since she was only over a week old. My little princess. Sometimes I think she is all I care about in life.

I'm so sorry you are seperated from your dogs. How does he treat them? If he is not treating them well that might be the key to getting them back. If he is treating them well, despite your differences with him, at least he is good for that. Still, your loss is a major one. People who aren't pet owners wouldn't understand, but there's nothing like the love of an animal.

Devote yourself to your remaining puppy and making that one feel special. You are the light of your dog's life as they are yours.

-ella

August 1, 2005
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oh, my kids friends think i'm pretty cool. i love to cook (i'm lucky cause i stay home) they are always impressed cause we live in a society of two work families and take out. i learned how to make candy when my babies were little. so i am really cool at xmas time. ha ha

August 1, 2005
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sorry that i am chattering, how r u feeling now?

mzrella-howdy fellow dog lover.

August 1, 2005
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He is not keeping them that clean or brushing them or washing their faces. One of the last things I told him when he took them was not to let anyone cut the hair around their eyes short. When hebrought them here they had been to a groomer about 3-4 weeks before and the hair was cut short around their eyes. As soon as that hair gets damp it curls into their eyes and their is a circle of trying to keep their eyes clean and keep combing the hair down. They did not smell to good either. I did not want to groom them while they were here as i only get about 2 hours and I just want to hold them and hug them and give them their treats.

August 1, 2005
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Theseboots:

I also posted this on the other thread....

Panic attacks really stink don't they. When you feel one coming on you need to STOP and find a safe place to sit down or lie. You breath in thru the nose and out thru the mouth SLOWLY..... in thru the nose to the count of 5... out thru the mouth to the count of five.

IF and ONLY IF the panic attack is so severe you cannot catch your breath you need to put a paper bag or a baggie or even your hands... Cup them around your nose and mouth and breath in and out. You want to be breathing the same air. This will most likely make you feel dizzy. When it does stop and resume the slow breathing as mentioned above.

To also aid in your panic attack you need to learn some relaxation techniques. If you want I can print them on this thread for you, but you must let me know yes or no.

One last thing... please consider going to your family doc and telling him how you are living... about the panic attacks. There is absolutely nothing wrong w/ mediations when they are prescribed and under the care of a doctor. They need not be lifelong either. Just klong enough to get thru this. Also, ask your doc for some NONADDICTIVE anxiety medications. I have some and there are several to choose from.

I do hope you are able to calm down. I'll stick around for till 12am central time if you'd like to talk.

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Hey, I am a dog lover too. You have one pup left? I agree w/ mzrella... put your atention into that puppy.

I have a lab/blue heeler mix. I have made him a part of our family and trained him to the way that the Monks of New Skete train their dos. They take in german shepherds and train them.

My dog minds me so well. Like he can look into my eyes and see what I want before I say a thing. He (and my cat) follow me room to room in the daytime and then sleep close to me. They watch over me I think. lol.

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Every one keeps telling me not to keep a puppy but I don't know if I can not keep one. The littlest one of the pups almost died a birth. I was out of town and the pups arrived in my car. The mom was in a birthing pan as I had known that could happen. When he arrived he did not breath. I shook his head down trying to clear the fluid and then decided I should get rid of him. I was going to put him in the ditch and then I did not want some wild animal or bird to eat him so I reach into the back seat for a rag I had there to wrap him and when I accidently squeezed him I saw air come out of his mouth. After that I blew gently in his mouth and squeezed his rib cage I did that 4-5 times and he started to turn red. I put him back in the pan with his mother and drove to fast for the next 90 miles. I told Misty if you look after him until we make it home he will live. I drove into the city and I live quite a way accross it and I never had one red light. It was like God kept the path clear. I put him to nurse a few drops a couple of times amd made sure everyone else got some milk. I did that 3 times during the night and in the morning he was just as good as the rest. He is quite tiny. the mom varies between 8-10 pounds.

August 1, 2005
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Is he affectionate with them? Feed them well? Take them to the vet? If he doesn't... maybe you can build a case? It sounds like he's not taking care of them the way you would, but to someone who doesn't know those dogs it might not seem that bad. I'm also concerned about your anxiety level as far as the emotional stress of having the puppies being with someone who doesn't know how to care about them. If he's merely a little messy, it's not as bad as if he's completely negligent or abusive. Although in that case- you'd have a way to get your dogs back. So painful. It sounds like a true heartbreak.

Hello lost and found! Yes I am a dog lover. Dogs are better company than any of my ex boyfriends. I've made poor romantic choices, but I can't imagine it possible to make a bad choice in a dog. They are all wonderful.

-ella

August 1, 2005
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i kept one in the second litter, that is how i ended up with gerty. i love her to death, but i do realize i should have given her away so she would have had a family love her and she would have been the one. like it is, she has to share with her parents. of course i wouldn't trade the lotter for her now..ha ha

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I have used a paper bag before so I kind of know how that works but I forgot. I have all kinds of medications some I have been on for 10 years. I think I am maybe addicted to the meds. Pain killers and anti anxiety anti depression etc. I have spent the weekend mainly on the computer and now I think I have every mental health disease known to man kind. today I forwarded the Prescription Drug Page to my husband, boy do I regret that. i just gave him more fodder to bad mouth me.

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u know the main problem with our dogs is to watch for ulcers on their eyes. the hair can scratch really easy and put their eyes out. does your ex not realize why not to cut the hair around their eyes????

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