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husband tells lies
March 1, 2007
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Last nite my husband said that 3 of his friends, and his bother have told him, that I have f.....k them, I said that he can believe what ever he wants. Because from the past year, he has done the same kind of stuff. I know that they never said that, and it is completely untrue..I spoke to his bother today and told him what had happen, and he thought that his bother is not playing with a full deck, I said to my husband, that if he wanted out of our marriage, that he did not have to say that stuff, he said it must be true because I did not denied it.. What is happening here?

March 1, 2007
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False accusations of infidelity are both a form of abuse and a symptom of abuse.

I suggest you think about other ways that abuse might manifest in your relationship.

March 1, 2007
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He has admitted infidelity? This issue is surely to destroy trust. Maybe he figures that you don't trust him and now it has come to him not trusting you either because your relationship is suffering. You have a few options. Because without trust your marriage is most likely doomed. It won't survive unless it is rebuilt. But both of you have to want to rebuild it. Maybe a marriage or couples counseling will help or at least seek answers for yourself. If he is purposely sabotoging the relationship because he does not want to be in it, then certainly you may think about getting out on your own and living a better life than with a man who insists on treating you badly because of his own insecurities and his own self destruction to your marriage. Why do you really want to stay with a man who continues to cheat on you anyway? You deserve better than a man who cheats and a man who lies and then blames you.

March 1, 2007
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It is better to point the finger at someone else, then to look at the finger that is pointing right back at you.

The next time he ask you a question, ask him what is he doing?

Then you will get your answers. Then it will be up to you to make your choices about your husband.

March 1, 2007
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My husband used to accuse me of sleeping with various people. He even said that the child I miscarried was not his and that it was God's judgement on me.
That kind of thing is abuse. and I told him I could not tolerate that kind of thinking or accusations and that he could take himself and his accusations away.If that is how he thought of me.

We are still together but the accusations have stopped.

March 1, 2007
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I just have a real problems with that, when someone accuse you of doing something and they don't have the fact.
My theory is that when someone does that to you, they are doing something that they don't want you to know about. It is so easy to accuse someone, having them to believe that they are doing something, when that person is not.
I refuse to play those kind of games. They are mind games and I refuse to let anyone get all into my head, trying to make me seem like I am crazy.
Don't point that finger at me unless you have a really good finger because if not, I would break it.

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